Your letter is very depressing to me. I am a mom with a very pretty and
petite daughter who is a dancer and also very smart. She has a patch on her
shoulder, and you can see it when she wears a dance costume. She is only in
middle school, and it isn’t very dark right now, but I understand that it
gets worse over time as she grows up. I am very upset and sad to hear how
you feel and how your life is affected. I hope you know that you are a
loveable and desirable person and you shouldn’t feel that you will be
rejected. As a woman, I know for a fact that women do not judge bodies like
men do. You must trust someone to love you the way you are. But I also
know that if you are affected so badly, how much worse will it be for my
daughter when men judge the body so critically and can’t see past that?
Would you date a girl with a nevus? I am wondering if there is anything
your family could have done differently to make you feel more confident?
Did they joke around about it? If your family could have supported you
better, please tell me in what way so that I won’t make the same mistakes.
But believe me, you have to trust a woman to love you and I guarantee that
the right person will see past that. If your nevus is on the trunk, you
should wear a rash guard when you swim. Those look good and keep you from
getting skin cancer, plus nobody will see the nevus. My daughter has a cute
hot pink rash guard and she looks really good and very sporty in it.
Best wishes to you…