Inflated body expectations

Depression
#1

First, I realize by titling the post that every guy here who sees it will look in. Hi! :smiley:

OK, bored, was watching a show on HBO called “Porn 101” or something like that, hosted by someone who I think is a big porn star these days and she hosts it al totally naked. I have no problem with that – I’ve used nude models either in person or from photos for over 4 decades now – but I look at this woman and think she’s not beautiful, but she is very attractive except for these obviously over-sized fake breasts, which to me totally destroyed her over-all looks.

I can totally understand why a woman would have surgery to compensate for the physical effects of age or childbirth, but I do think they should only do so in a way that fits their over-all look.

Anyway, my question is – do women actually think they look better when they have these fake breasts that look like someone glued two pink watermelons to their chest, or do they do it because they feel it’s expected or they have to because they think that’s what men want, or some other outside influence?

#2

sorry to hear that kaydence.

#3

lindy, of course (straight) men like those big watermelons, hehe : D

#4

We should all just learn to be happy whatever size we are!

That’s one thing that’s good about getting OLD like me, you worry so little about how you look, it’s very freeing.

#5

Yellowrock. I just saw after I posted that you are planning to have a reduction. The procedure I had was virtually painless. I am happy with my results. I’ll PM you and tell you some of the “extra” benefits. Tee hee.

#6

anna, you seem happy with your new boobs. i’m the other way, too well blessed!, i get too much backpain, and i cannot wait till i get my reduction.

#7

since i am still awake, i would say that woman had it done like she did because of her chosen “profession.”  some women have it done to please their men, others to please themselves.  I personally would not have it done, unless I had to have a complete masectomy, and could have it done, but i would not get "watermelons, maybe “apples” that fit my body.  Just my opinion.

#8

That’s kind of what I meant. I don’t see anything wrong with a nip and a tuck to make someone look their best, but I meant women who have the huge implants, and obviously the majority of them aren’t in the porn business. I don’t agree, but i can see someone in that business having over-large implants because it’s a career thing – what i wonder is the women who think they look good that way. At least i thin that they think look good – or do they think they look silly but think they’ll get a better man that way?

#9

I don’t believe in getting them for myself unless something radical with my
health was going on.If a woman wants to get them,fine.But jeesh,keep it
reasonable.Pam Anderson is a big example of this(no pun intended).She had them put
in,taken out,then put in again.She doesn’t look like a woman anymore,just a
cartoon.Carmen Elektra is the same way.
I understand in the adult entertainment business breat implants are a common
thing for the job.But you know,eventually a lady gets older,and gravity
takes its course,not to mention the parts pretty much end at 35 or so,sometimes
sooner.And it’s a lot on the lady’s back and breathing to heft around all that
extra weight.

Huggs,
Cleta

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#10

i suppose certain women don’t feel worthful unless they have fake watermelon implants…which is really quite sad. it’s just a trend - apples will be in next. at the end of the day no one is perfect and we are lovely each in our unique way.

#11

I THI N K THAT IF A WOMAN DECIDES TO GET IMPLANTS FOR HERSELF WITH NO PRESSURE FROM HER MATE OR OTHERS, SHE WOULD PROB PICK A REASONABLE CUP SIZE. HOWEVER IF SHE IS PRESSURED BY HER PARTNER THAN I THINK SHE WOULD FOLLOW IN PAM ANDERSONS FOOTSTEPS AND HAUL WATERMELON SIZE BOOBS AROUND FOR THE REST OF HER LIFE.

I GOT A QUESTION. DO GUYS ACTUALLY FIND THOSE HUGE, UNNATURALLY LARGE FAKE BOOBS ATTRACTIVE?

#12

I agree to a certain extent. Breast implants should mainly be considered if your breast are flat or removed due to breast cancer.

Well well well!I’m a 34c and therefore I should just swoon with womanliness every time I look at my breasts,right?

The thing is: no one’s self esteem is really defined by their bodies. Having this or that secondary sex characteristic be a societally admired size, such as large breasts or a nice shaped butt, may make you more attractive to more people. But it can not make you happy.

 Today, plastic surgery is more widely available and more accessible to less than wealthy people.But I really think women should reserve major surgery for something life saving as all major surgery is a big risk- and there are no guarantees.

Luckily, stem cell research are opening up new doorways those who dream about sideeffect-free breast enhancement, it’s called tissue engineering, and the technology should be mainstream in a decade or so, by then all women could grow their own implants.

Jade

#13

I always wonder what those FIRM watermelons are going to look like on an 80 year old. I can see the projectiles lifting heavenward from the coffin.
But I think it’s up to each woman to decide. I have friends who have them and would never admit it, others are open about it and I love them just the same, I just don’t hug them as tight, hahaha!

#14

Now this is why I started a Ladies only forum in Friends United. Now yes there are men that have over active pect glands but this is mostly a womans issue. I hope many will support this Ladies Only forum . I personally have medical issues that a male doctor doesn’t see as relavent . We are not second class citizens , haven’t been for a very long time but the medical field is a bit behind . ( as yes pun is intended !)

#15

I recieved an e-mail that actually showed a ( cough) seasoned woman that had implants. And it was really REALLY awful to see . The thong she was wearing on her sagging butt didn’t help . But them implants still looked like round melons though the rest of her definitly went south !!! Guess it’s a matter of self perception !!! And ultimatly its anothers personal decision , who am I to judge? judge not least ye be judge . No one is perfect nor would I even want to try to be. I am who I am , thats my story and I’m sticking to it !!!

#16

FIRST, I WANT TO START BY SAYING THAT THIS SUBJECT IS A SENSITVE ONE FOR ME SO I WILL TRY NOT TO COME ACROSS IN A NEGITIVE MANNER.

THAT BEING SAID, I THINK THAT WOMEN DO NOT THINK IT LOOKS GOOD. I AM NOT TALKING ABOUT THE ‘‘REASONABLE’’ IMPLANTS THAT LOOK LIKE NORMAL BREAST, BUT THE ONES THAT RESEMEBLE WATERMELONS CRAMMED IN A SHIRT TWO SIZES TOO SMALL. PEOPLE IN THE PORN BUSINESS, THAT IS THEIR TRADMARK. BIG HONKIN BOOBS.

WOMEN THAT OPT FOR BREAST IMPLANTS FOR MED R EASONS OR FOR VANITY REASONS USUALLY DO NOT GO TO THAT EXTREMES. THERE EXSPECTATIONS AR E MUCH MORE REALISTIC. HOWEVER IF A WOMAN IS DOING IT FOR A MAN, SHE IS MORE LIKELY GOING TO GO FOR THE PAM ANDERSON LOOK BECAUSE THAT IS THE IMPRESSION WE GET FROM THE MEDIA.

#17

First I must agree with Willow Rose on the comment about gravity. Also with Jade on the subject of plastic surgery being available to less wealthy women. I had breast surgery. Only MY watermelons grew to that size and I hated the attention they drew. Men would look at them instead of my face. I felt uncomfortable much of the time and I tried to hide them by wearing large sweatshirts and jackets to no avail. Finally as I got older and I had my children and they didn’t sit up as much it became worse. They were heavy and they hurt my neck and back. I had deep grooves in my shoulders where the bra straps would cut into them. I am not rich but, I have insurance. My insurance covered 100% of the cost of my reduction surgery. My plastic surgeron told my that he has never had an application denied. Of course to be approved by the insurance companies, pain, discomfort, scarring, or other MEDICAL reasons have to be mentioned. So, I never understood who in their right mind would CHOOSE to have huge “watermelons.” They were awful.

#18

“NOW…if i posted on here about if you wanted to change your penis size, would you answer?” ~ Now Bon, be nice, we would need a new thread just for the men : D

#19

I don’t think women think it looks good. And, I hope I don’t offend anyone by saying this, but I think that a man who respects and loves a woman wouldn’t want her to change her appearance that drastically. I do understand the effects that implants can have on the self-esteem if it was a huge insecurity for someone. Usually, in that situation the woman would have reasonable expectations and not want to go to the opposite end of the spectrum, but try to look more balanced. If for example she had small breasts and a larger round rear, then just going slightly larger on the top may even it out. Truth be told though, if a man askes his woman to change herself then he does not love her. When love is involved, the exterior becomes transparent and you care much more what they are made of on the inside anyway. Also, usually men prefer to have their love muffins to themselves, watermelon implants put their woman out there for all other guys to gauk at. That doesn’t seem respectful.

I hope I didn’t offend anyone. I have implants myself and felt swayed by my husband, who has zero respect for me. Luckily, I didn’t give into his wishes to turn me into a watermelon queen, and I got a size that works for me. Trust me though, it is a huge adjustment,(pun intended hehe) no matter how big you go because everything looks different on your body than it used to and sometimes it’s hard to shop because you no longer know what size you’ll be. I get frustrated and don’t want to leave the fitting room to swap sizes a million times.

My self-esteem now vs. pre-surgery? Same overall. I feel more balanced, but my husband tries to keep me down, so it is hard to adequately judge what I would feel like if I were healthy- probably wouldn’t have gotten them if my self-esteem was good to begin with.

#20

I am still adjusting to my “new body”, but it is tough.

A few women in my family, aunt and cousin, have gone through reductions and it has done wonders for their health and overall sense of well-being. I think reductions may have an even greater impact on the person than implants do because it improves their physical and emotional health. Hopefully you will find it to be as rewarding as my aunt and cousin did.