Poisitive steps

[Rhonda]

Good points Gramms, and glad to see this thread back on the POSITIVE trend This thread is called POSITIVE STEPS and that is exactly what it was meant to be about.

Let’s learn good things from and be helpful to each other, to the extent that we can.

At all times, we should consider the information we have on hand, and ask for more if needed… but I guess we also need to realize that everyone on the planet is at a different place than we are emotionally, so we might not always connect as we’d like too… one thing I have noticed is that things I remember and feel are important to me are not always as important to others - and vice versa… I have been witness to times when people believed I felt a certain way, but I didn’t, or people felt that I had a certain opinion / thought / grudge / etc. that I never had - and again vice versa. Those moments take time to overcome, and yet they are learning moments. Black and white words on the internet don’t always convey what we would like them to convey, and in the way we would like them to come across. Try as we may, we all have moments that we could improve upon…

We are all a work in progress… every day… if we quit working on ourselves, we quit progressing.

[VickieM_1124]

no its called poisitive steps punky but yes it is supposed to be positive just kidding by the way gramms that is so true I have been dealing with that to and yes it is a learning opportunity but I don’t want to learn from that to often
punky I like what you said now that I read the whole thing

[StillOnTheSeesaw]

The most important thing i’ve learned in the past few months is that i’m responsible for my own life.

The first part – it doesn’t do me any good to keep blaming my past for what i am now. The past is what it is, i can’t change it in any way. Of course my life caused me to learn negative ways to act or to think about myself and others. But now my life is my responsibility. I can and must change how it affects me NOW.

The second part – I am responsible for EVERYTHING i do and say. Yes, i’m ill, and that sometimes what i say and do hurts others. that is not my intent, but it happens anyway. But i can’t expect that people will always forgive me and will always be able to go on just the same despite that deep hurt.

I can’t count how many times i’ve had to apologize for things i said or did. When I’m very lucky, the person forgives me, and our relationship can go on as it was, and maybe even better. However, sometimes the person can forgive me, but things are never quite the same. Sometimes i completely “burned the bridge” between us, and i lost someone who was important to me, despite how much they love me.

But no matter what, I’m totally responsibility for any fallout from what i say or do. I’m all grown up now, and must accept the consequences of my behavior.

Over 2 years of therapy has led me to these truths. Of course, taking total responsibility is frightening. But its the only way i will stop being a victim of my own life.

I’m not there, but i think i’m getting closer and closer.

[Rhonda]

You girls are cute

I promise never to say what my Grandpa used to say “she’s a bad actor!”… which meant “there’s trouble, she’s a bad one”… similar to “you’re a bad egg.”

So I won’t say that But I will say happy, happy, joy, joy to friends And POSITIVE (or POISITIVE) steps

[TM2TRIVER]

Wowie, I suppose I am in the process of learning to let go.
To Let Go of things, ideas, patterns of behavior, and opening up to NEW. I am in a wild wrestle with it all from time to time and now and again I catch myself quiet, content, and even happy in the middle of all the mess I am still going through. In those brief moments I can truthfully say, it’s all good…

[lindystar]

GREAT, SEESAW!!!

[VickieM_1124]

It is giving me a boost reading all of your positive steps I will keep trying even when I fall flat on my face I will get up brush my self off and keep going this week I fell flat on my face well according to me and as a result I was frustrated and was ready to give up I wasn’t kind to my self or others yet my therapist once again put it in to perspective he tends to see the positives in my negatives I don’t

[Rhonda]

This is why a therapist can be such a good investment, Vickie… even though it’s hard to relive the pain with them, and learn new things from them, they can give us the benefit of perspective that we don’t have

You didn’t give up - therefore you are a SUCCESS! A poisitive SUCCESS
(Bugs Bunny would probably say positive as poisitive!)

[grandma_nubu]

I find it perfectly delicious to think on how we are all working trying and accomplishing stepping forward as individuals. We are never alone here.The important thing is instead of years of blaming others for our Life (me too) we are all in the process of taking full responsibility for our personal growth. The important thing I’ve learned over the years is WE CAN’T Change Others.But we can love and respect ourselves and our goals. Possibilities, what a wonderful word, Our lives hold wonderful possibilities. Remember that Like attracts Like…So lets think the best thoughts for everyone and try to plan the best actions. It will draw in only the best into our lives. And thats what we all hope and pray for. I think my Careplace friends are wonderful teachers. I respect you all.

Love, gramms
Remember that we never fail. We always have a new day.We can reach for support and ask for love. You are all worthy of love and support.

[system]

Gramms, that is beautiful. If we can remember those words we will never feel alone. And we will always have support. How can we not think good thoughts?? Very positive steps… Thanks for sharing…
Good Thread, Punky

[Rhonda]

Eeyore - Vickie started this wonderful thread - love to give credit where it’s due

Let’s keep on keepin’ on and sharing our positive experiences… even our negative ones, as someone who is in a “slightly better” place than us can show us new perspective

[system]

Silly me. Sorry about that. Good thread Vickie…I love how everyone is supporting it. Some very positive thoughts.

[Rhonda]

Sammi - don’t be sorry - don’t worry be happy now (has anyone seen “Flushed Away”? These slugs sing “Don’t worry Be happy” in one part of the movie and it CRACKS ME UP!)… anyway carry on

[system]

Thanks girlfriend. Sometimes the ol mind slips…

[Rhonda]

Hey, Sammi, maybe your mind will run into my mind, and they’ll find a GPS to come back to us…

Meanwhile - “out of my mind, be back in five minutes!”

[system]

PUNKY, YOU ARE SOOO COOL…

[Rhonda]

Right back atcha!

Hey, my new motto for me is “it’s cool to be a fool!” I will definitely have use for that statement

Speaking of “cool”… you know what’s cool?.. snappin’!

[winnie_the_pooh]

postive steps for me is ive learn not to listen to all BS on careplace and listen to only the people who know what their talking about
and the people who dosent act better than anyone else

[lindystar]

WE PRAY SHE “FINDERS” THE “PATH” TO SANITY…

[winnie_the_pooh]

she didn’t act for sarcastic remarks lindystar

i post my positive steps just like everyone else eeyore
im sorry lindystar ruined your positive step sight by her sarcasm