Dear Careplace: I am deeply saddened by my friend Katerina’s suicide last Friday. She was a member of Careplace. She talked about it frequently and we were good friends and co-workers at the same hospital in Dallas, Texas.
I cannot believe that she is gone. Kat had her problems as many of you do on this website but as far as she was concerned, she was totally blacklisted by one member she referrred to as “peter pan.” She said that she sent a message to this woman trying to explain that the woman was too obsessed with this website and that she needed to basically, get a life. She also told me that this woman was always saying things on this site that were so cutesie that it could make a person “diabetic.” In other words, Kat believed this woman to be a phony and told her so.
Her nickname was something like TmRiver? That is all that I can remember. Kat was a sweet, warm, loving individual and a wonderful mother. What I want you to know is that is the Kat that I knew. She didn’t always say things correctly or wasn’t always politically correct, but she grew up pretty much on the streets, married pretty young and was thrown over for another woman because her husband could not put up with her “imperfection” know as depression. She started binge drinking. During these times, she was liable to say anything and sometimes did. It never affected her job and didn’t affect her child. She needed understanding, not burnt at the stake by someone who also has problems.
I want to thank Wayne for trying to talk to her, and Kikiwhatever and Mom-to-One for trying to help her. For the person who felt it necessary not to talk to her personally and pushed her over the edge as if to say, “you are no good and don’t belong here,” you no doubt will end up where you belong and so will all the people who threw verbal darts at her will.
I will remember my good friend as she was and i pray for her little girl who is now without her wonderful mother, and for myself, who is now without a wonderful friend, cohort on the job, and fine coworker.
MIKEY, RN