I’m in a real s*** right now as my borderline personality disorder which hardly ever affects me, has been triggered and is in a real flare up, i’m not sure how i’m going to get thru things or if i’ll get thru. i may be in real trouble, i don’t know what the end result of this is going to be for me…
There isn’t a borderline personality group at careplace…so thought this forum may be next best place for my post.
The current trigger of this condition for me is that my partner thinks he has cancer (he probably does have) and hence due to that has decided it is in my best interests to leave me. (as i have CFS and stress can make it worst… He don’t want to put me through watching him die).
This came about right after a psychologist told him that he would be selfish of him to take my and his relationship any further, seeing he’s got so many medical issues…and seeing i’m sick.
(This came right at the point where he was about to fly me over to him and we trial living together as couple. We had been waiting many myths for this to even become possible, due to all the health stuff i had to get sorted out and dealt with first, before trying to leave my country).
Anyway… i’m not dealing with his decision to leave me due to this and don’t know how on earth to deal with it… or how it makes me feel. i cant deal with it. i don’t know if i’m going to survive this.
Borderline personality peoples don’t deal with abandonment very well at all. i don’t know what to do with myself, i’m having some very stupid thoughts.
i’ve booked a plane ticket as i’m going to beg and plead with him, not to do this… not to leave me just cause he thinks he’s got cancer and hence thinks he wouldn’t be doing right via me to be with me. I cant deal with him breaking it off.
(stupid counselor… what she’s told him to do for my sake… has put my life in jeopardy. NOT RIGHT that a counselor said this, WITHOUT even knowing me or my medical problems… or how much problems him breaking up with me, would cause me).
Fortunately i had a good day out with family yesterday…and that has settled me down enough now that i wont be knifing myself on his doorstep, if he wont have me. (risk still there if my mood swings back worst again, i’ve only settled down a little as i’m convincing myself that he loves me so wont leave me…if i loose that thought and truly deeply feel inside he didn’t care or don’t really want me, i don’t know what will happen next).
so i’m still very very worried… i could easily flip out much much more than i’m flipping out right now … and currently are into the self harm stuff some.
i NEED him to calm me… i need him to do the right thing via me… that being not to leave me (he just wants to be friends)… just cause he thinks it would be selfish for him to be with me.
i NEED his love… i NEED his caring… i don’t want to keep trying to live without it.
i know i’m really in need of help… i don’t like feeling like i cant deal with breakups. i don’t like feeling this desperate… but on the other hand… i wont try to seek help in person anywhere… as i really don’t want to live and don’t want to have my choices stopped and i don’t want to live without him.
i’m don’t know if anything said to me can make me feel better or not… but if there is a counselor here who knows about borderline personality disorder and hence knows how to counsel me or work with me in some way… i would really like to have your help. i cant deal and just don’t know how to. i know i need help but ain’t wanting it (but on the other hand, a part of me does).
i’m lost and confused…and feeling like nothing will ever be right again