Jamie, everyone would like to tell you that there is hope for remission after the cancer cells get through the bladder wall. Let me give you my case. I was diagnosed in 2000 with bladder cancer. The urologist did not feel that the cancer had gotten through the bladder wall prior to surgery. Since I had a fast growing cancer and scraping the inside of the bladder did not work, he decided to remove it.
I had radical surgery. That means that everything down there was removed. When they examined the lymph nodes that they removed from the groin, they did find a few cancer cells. The big question now was 'where else did the cancer cells travel to in my body?
I had massive chemotherapy, I was 62 years old. I had a terrible time with the chemo. Sick all the time for over 4 months. I vowed that I would never have chemo. again.
Today, with all the test that I am taking since the chemo. ended, I am not showing any signs of any new cancer. My Oncologist does not want to see me anymore. I just have yearly test and scans from my Urologist.
My Oncologist would not say that I was in remission nor cured but did say that I was one of the fortunate people who is surviving.
Talk to the Doctors that are looking after your father. Be very, very blunt with them regarding your questions. You might not like the answers you receive but at least you will KNOW.
Would I go through chemo. again if my cancer comes back? Yes, I would go through another 4 -6 months of hell IF and only IF the chemo. would give me a reasonable extension of time. I personally would want another 1 - 2 years. It took me about 8 months to get back to normal after my first chemo. treatment. Another big factor for me would be the state of my overall health at the time they wanted me to do more chemo.
Yes, there is hope in fighting this disease. I asked the man upstairs for another 5 years when I found out that the cancer had gotten outside my bladder and chemo. was advised. He has given me 7 years so far. Six and one half of those years have been fantastic.
If you have the time, I have a blog outlining my fight with bladder cancer since diagnosed in 2000. Take a read.
My very best to your father, to you and the rest of your family. Tell your Dad to fight, fight and never give up.