" HIV, which is a part of us and doesn’t define us…"
Funny you should say this. It’s an issue I am dealing with.
Few people have known I am HIV+ so it hasn’t defined me in that respect.
I’ve done well on my job, missed less time than my “healthy” co-workers, been promoted and virtually doubled my salary. And I’ve been well liked.
But recently I was put in the position where I had to reveal my HIV status to somebody I met (because they were interested in me personally) and needless to say it scared them off.
I know I did the right thing, but it really hurt me.
And far more than I ever expected it to.
I haven’t felt so lonely in years.
On one hand I am tired of isolating myself from close relations with other people because I don’t want to reveal my HIV status.
On the other hand I don't know if I can handle the rejection I will face by coming out.
Either way I can’t seem to avoid it defining my life, and who I am in other people’s eyes.