How do I deal with a husband who has no idea why I can’t stop crying and tells me he doesn’t want to come home when I’m like this?
Ranvali (or is it j). I really feel for you. My husband isn’t that bad, but he just doesn’t understand, even tho he went through a bout of depression himself. He was very much against me seeing a talk therapist and said I ought to be able to “take care of it myself”. At the time we’d been married 40 years!!! I went in spite of him and had fairly good results, but had to go to a psycologist for meds. So that’s 2 mental dr. and he still doesn’t understand. I’ve been seeing my therapist for almost 8 years and would not change for any amount of money. Also I am a diabetic T2 and he doesn’t understand that. Brings me candy all the time. When I cry, he just looks at me and pats my back. He’s 10 yrs older than me & of a different school of thought. Doesn’t have the words to comfort and doesn’t really support me by trying to help me. SOOOOOOOOOOOO I’ve decided that MEN JUST DON’T GET IT!!! EVER!!! I’m sure there are very supportive men out there that study up on stuff and help their spouses in every way they can. Just not any that I know and that’s quite a few. I don’t know what more to tell you except you’re aren’t alone. Just keep saying, “MEN ARE MORONS” and laugh, if you can. It is really up to you to take care of yourself, make the correct decisions for you and your health. Keep come here and venting . You’ll always find someone to talk to. Luck and Love, and Hugs. Judy