no…they havnt got a sense of humor…they can be so funy when its them cracking the jokes…but crack one back at them and they go all paranoid and think you are taking the p…ss,worse still you just dont know what is going to"trigger’them off!
wow, that is weird about the lack of sense of humor. I always wondered what in the hell was wrong with my stbxh. He has NO sense of humor, and I am funny as shit, IMO, LOL. I once told him about a Saturday Night Live skit that I came up with in my mind and made the mistake of sharing it with him…Its a comercial for “Flatuscents”, a little pill that made your flatulence smell like, Pina Colada, Strawberry…whatever. I said, "imagine a guy picking up a girl for their first date. He just ripped one in the car, but had taken a “new car” scented Flatuscent pill. She gets in the car and says, “mmm, new car?” Then he winks at the camera and says, "thanks flatuscents"
He looked at me with a blank stare…I’m extremely goofy and love to find humor in just about anything, God knows how I ended up with such a volitale dud…and even if he didn’t think it was funny…hell, it is funny.
I loved what someone said about the leather members only jacket…that one is worth years of laughs…he had one too, only not leather. Your dad went all out on that one.
My ex had a since of humor. Many times she got pissed at me for making spurt some form of drink out her nose. I’ve known other people with NPD to also have senses of humor though they tend to be… I dunno… on the cynical side.
A YEAR AGO TODAY, MY EX-N DISCARDED ME. HE STARTED STALKING ME EVEN WHEN HE HAD A GIRLFRIEND IN JANUARY. SO I STARTED DATING HIM AGAIN . I CAREFULLY CREATED A CIRCUMSTANCE WHERE HE HAD TO DISCARD ME AGAIN. AFTER BEING WITH HIM FOR 5 WEEKS I TOLD HIM THAT I WAS MOVING BACK NORTH. SEEING THAT HE COULDN’T BE ABANDONED, HE CREATED IT AGAIN. WITHIN 5 DAYS OF TELLING HIM THAT , I NO LONGER HEARD FROM HIM. THAT WAS 2 MONTHS AGO. NOW I REALLY AM MOVING BACK HOME. AFTER 33 YEARS IN FLORIDA , I’M MOVING BACK TO ORCHARD PARK, NY. I MET SOMEONE UP THERE JUST AFTER MY MOMS FUNERAL IN FEBRUARY. I HAVE WANTED TO MOVE BACK HOME FOR 6 YEARS AND NOW I’M DOING IT. MY EX-N LEFT ME A MUCH STRONGER WOMAN THAN I EVER WAS. HE DESTROYED MY LIFE, BUT I BUILT A NEW ONE. I HAVE NO FEELINGS LEFT FOR HIM, MUCH AS HE NEVER TRULY HAD FOR ME. BOTTOM LINE, YOU CAN’T LOVE A STONE. SO PLEASE SAY A PRAYER FOR ME AND MY NEW LIFE. I APPRECIATE IT. SUE
sue…Prayer said…
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Oh honey…blessings to you. I wish for you a wonderful life. I admire you for having the guts to do what I can’t. Run honey and don’t ever look back.
PLEASE DON’T SAY YOU CAN’T. AT ONE TIME I COULDN’T BREATHE WITHOUT HIM AT MY SIDE. HE WAS MY WHOLE LIFE. EVERY MOMENT WITHOUT HIM WAS AGONIZING. BUT I READ THE BOOK “MALIGNANT SELF LOVE” 5 TIMES. I HAD TO ACCEPT THE UGLY TRUTH ABOUT THE MONSTER I WAS DEALING WITH. I WANTED TO CALL HIM EVERY DAY. I JUST WANTED TO CATCH ONE GLIMPSE OF HIM ANYWHERE. BUT IT ALL CAME BACK TO WHAT THE BOOK SAID. HE NEVER LOVED ME OR ANY OTHER VICTIM FOR THAT MATTER. HE CAREFULLY BRAINWASHED US ALL. HE WAS IN MY VERY SOUL WHEN I LEFT. IT WAS SO HARD TO SEPERATE HIM FROM MY MIND. WHEN HE STARTED STALKING ME I WAS SCARED AT FIRST. BY GOING BACK TO HIM FOR 5 WEEKS , IT HELPED ME TO SEE JUST HOW TRUE THE FACTS WERE IN THAT BOOK. IF HE KISSED ME I TOLD HIM HE DIDN’T HAVE TO DO THAT. I TOLD HIM THAT I KNEW HE DIDN’T LOVE ME. I TOLD HIM THAAT I KNEW THAT IT WAS ALL TEMPORARY AND HE WAS JUST OUT LOOKING FOR SOMEONE ELSE. HE HATED THAT. SAID I SHOULD STOP READING THE BOOK. TOLD HIM I DIDN’T HAVE TO BECAUSE I KNEW IT BY HEART. HE TRIED SO HARD TO PRETEND TO LOVE ME. WHAT A FAKE. AND I GOT TO SEE IT UP CLOSE THIS TIME. I HAD HIM SO MIXED UP AT THE END THAT HE DIDN’T KNOW WHAT HAPPENED TO HIM. I SAID GOODBYE TO HIM ON A SATURDAY AFTERNOON ON MY WAY TO THE AIRPORT. I KNEW I WAS BEING DISCARDED. THE FOLLOWING DAY UP IN BUFFALO, I WAS WITH MY NEW BOYFRIEND. HOWS THAT FOR TIMING! HAVEN’T HEARD FROM HIM SINCE. IF I CAN DO IT, ANYONE CAN. GET INTO HIS MIND AND USE IT AGAINST HIM. AND FINDING A NEW MAN REALLY HELPED. MY GUY HAS FEELINGS AND ITS ALMOST ALIEN TO ME. HERE THIS GUY IS 6’ 3", 280 LBS. OF MUSCLE, TATOOS AND IT TURNS OUT I CAN HURT HIS FEELINGS IN A NEW YORK MINUTE. I DIDN’T KNOW THAT I COULD SPEAK MY MIND OR HAVE A THOUGHT OF MY OWN. BUT I FOUND OUT THAT WE CAN. PLEASE DON’T GIVE UP. YOU HAVE MY PRAYERS. SUE
SUe…you are as free as a bird…mentaly free.
Your new bloke sounds like a gentle giant…i found one thing over the years, REAL men dont take offence esily,REAL men can laugh at themselves,and REAL men care…
But saying that…its not easy to do what you have done…and it dOESNT sound like you are nOT jumping out of the’chip pan’into the fire either(which scares me)…hold on to your new man,as long as he treats you good…like a human being…he doesnt sound like he has aNYTHING to prove to himself/anyone else,and is comfy in his own skin!