Domestic Violence In the past year, I also printed out a lot of information on domestic violence , recently I have been concentrating on this disorder and my recovery, my children are adults and I have not been able to get through to them about this disorder and there is damage for sure, to both my adult children, nothing was normal growing up for them, he was ok with them, till they became teenagers and he felt threatened with their free thinking minds and the manipulation and control started with them.
I have read that we need another womans movement to call attention to domestic Violence , we need a clear definition of domestic violence, that is the no 1 problem, even mysef did not realize all the ways I was abused, I thought you had to be beat, but emotional and verbal abuse are far more destructive and damaging, the scars last a life time. I printed this out months ago:
A survey conducted in August 2006 by Opinion Research and Ruder Fin found: when asked to deifne what actions comprise domestic violence and abuse,
2 in 5 Americans(%40) did not mention, hitting, slapping, and punching.
OVER" 90%" OF AMERICANS FAILED TO DEFINE REPEATED EMOTIONAL, VERBAL, SEXUAL ABUSE, AND CONTROLING BEHAVIORS AS PATTERNS OF DOMESTIC VIOLENCE AND ABUSE!!!!!!!!!!
THE SURVEY CONCLUDED: WHEN AMERICANS CAN IDENTIFY DOMESTIC ABUSE, AMERICANS WILL ACT.
I HAVE NEVER SEEN THIS DISORDER TALKED ABOUT, I EMAILED DR PHIL TWICE, NO RESPONSE, OPRAH, ONCE, NO RESPONSE. I HAVE NEVER SEEN LUNDY BANCROFT WHO WROTE THE BOOK" INSIDE THE MINDS OF ANGRY CONTROLLING MEN" TALKING ABOUT CUSTODY AND THE COURTS AND WHAT WOMEN GO THROUGH ON ANY TV SHOW. PEOPLE THINK THE PROBLEM IS BEING TAKEN CARE OF BECAUSE THERE ARE SHELTERS FOR WOMEN TO RUN TO WITH THEIR CHILDREN, WHERE IS THE ABUSER, HOME. THE PROBLEM IS THE ABUSIVE MEN, THANK GOD FOR SHELTERS BUT THAT IS NOT THE ANSWER. I THINK A LOT OF ABUSERS HAVE THIS PERSONALITY DISORDER, THE" LACK OF EMPATHY," CONNECTING TO YOUR PARTNERS AND CHILDRENS FEELINGS, IS WHAT THEY ALL HAVE IN COMMON, THE UNDERLYING REASON FOR ABUSE IN ALL CASES. LACK OF EMPATHY, ANGER MANAGEMENT JUST DOES NOT HELP. BLAMING THE VICTIM , JUST LEAVE, IS NOT THE ANSWER, THE ABUSER MOVES ON, NO DISRUPTION IN THEIR LIFE. WHEN YOU HAVE CHILDREN, YOU LEAVE, THE COURTS DON'T CARE ABOUT THE EMOTIONAL TORTURE THEY PUT THE CHILDREN THROUGH. SO WHAT CAN WE DO. I AM WONDERING IF WE CAN TARGET A SHOW,A TV STATION, BUT COME TOGETHER AS A GROUP AND ALL EMAIL ON A SPECIFIC DAY ALSO TO OUR SENATORS, CONGRESSMEN, LEGISLATORS, ENLIST EVERY FRIEND WE KNOW ALSO, CAN WE FORM A GROUP AND WAGE A CAMPAIGN TO CALL ATTENTION TO THIS DISORDER AND MAKE CLEAR THE DEFINITION OF DOMESTIC VIOLENCE?? WHAT DO YOU THINK,DOES NOT COST ANYTHING BUT A MINUTE OF YOU TIME, DSANCHEZ, WHAT STATE ARE YOU IN GIVE US SOME EMAIL ADDRESS FOR YOUR LOCAL STATIONS, AND WHAT YOU WANT US TO SAY. WE HAVE TO DO OPRAH AND DR PHIL ALSO ON A SPECIFIC DAY, HOW MANY ARE ON HERE AND HOW MANY CAN YOU GET TO JOIN IN. WE CAN ALL GET THE EMAIL ADDRESS FOR OUR STATES AND WORK THEM ONE AT A TIME. I AM RETIRED, I HAVE LOTS OF TIME, PUT ME TO WORK. HUGS MAMOLIE