I ran across some videos this morning and thought I would share, if I can manage doing a link right.
http://www.videojug.com/interview/narcissistic-personality-disorder
There are quite a few videos covering all the disorders, for those of us who are dealing with multiple issues or slightly different disorders.
Thanks…this is a very good video… I sent it to my ex husband…don’t know if he will appreciateit, however.
TJ
Does your exhusband have NPD? If he does, chances are he’s not capable of recognizing it applies to him.
Well I think he has NPD and my therapist thinks he has some characteristics as well, you’re right he probably won’t think it applies to him at all…but at least I tried…
TJ
I went to the site, but unfortunately I can not hear what she is saying.
skeewee…at leasr you tried.
wastedyouth…good vids.
Great Videos WastedYouth!
Thank you 
fancynancy…how do you get the smiley on here?
Very informative,Wastedyouth.I listened to her talk about many of the disorders and learned a lot.She described NPD very well.
Thanks.
I think she has oversimplified NPD somewhat.
I’m better than you. And thats more or less it!
If only it were that simple, and if only they were that easy to spot!
In my experience they dont get the admiration they need by putting everyone around them down. Charm featured pretty highly in the day to day goings on. My H is a highly likeable chap, hell yeah, but ask him what he thought of those he charmed?? Ask him to tell you their name or anything about the person he just spend 2 hours chatting to. He knew how to touch an arm or a shoulder to make someone feel special - knew the body language to engage, and he used those skills, but couldnt give a hoot about the person. The person rarely knew that.
it took me years to work out that he didnt care. That every time we sat and talked about “us” he could not actually recall anything that I had said. I never knew that nothing touched him.
He didnt annoy people. Why would he? Whats to gain in that? Only I learned over years of his inner arrogance and how little anyone meant to him. Charming everyone around him, making people laugh and engage with him and think him a great guy was his thing. Only I knew that his sense of humour was not real, that it is merely a tactic to gain admiration.
He would have been “floored” had it not worked, but fortunately for him, it did and does work. These are not completely stupid people going around demanding that you like them and being obviously pissed off when you dont.
People still say to me OMG he was SUCH A GREAT GUY! yea he was, on the face of things.
She has read a book or two and she identifies what she has read with a “type” of person that she feels is highly recognisable. Maybe it is that simple? Just not in my experience!
My ex was a real snob (and still is). If he felt you were beneath him, he would give you very little of his time of the day, and they (and me) would know that he was a rude son of a b… If he felt you were worth talking to, he would have conversation. He never appeared to need or want the kind of attention expressed here on the forum about narcissism. He actually once said, “I don’t care if I have any friends!” He had a real attitude with people in general. If a Jehova Witness came to the door, he would get joy out of saying, “no thank you very much,” and slam the door in their faces. He would also do the same with sales people on the phone or at the door. He was sooooo rude and I was always making up for his rudeness to people. Even with me, when I was having a conversation with him, he would either roll his eyes at me, to show me how bored he was with my conversation, he would finish my sentence, like he knew what I was going to say, to rush the end of my story, or say, “Get to the point, I’m a headline’s guy and I don’t like details.” He was truly the most obnoxious man/person whom I have ever met and ever want to meet again. The nerve of him! And most of the time, I actually couldn’t stand him. But, life, the way things work out, is amazing. He is probably as happy as he could ever be. He got rid of his wife, whom he couldn’t stand (me) for being me, and married a woman with a lot of smarts and a lot of money, who also belongs to the hoy-paloy country clubs, etc. As a matter of fact, they are presently vacationing in France. Is he in love with her? No, I know he isn’t (CAN’T), but he is as happy as he ever will be and she hasn’t a clue. For all I know, she too can be a N. I, on the other hand, am the one who went through a traumatic grief cycle. Go figure!