Hi:
After reading your response fooled, I realized that what your seeking, and desiring is part of all are DNA, to be loved with a love that fills us, makes us complete. The people in my life who struggle with this personality are people who have no sense of self. They live vicariously through others, their ability to love back is not there because they have no sense of self. The reality is painful, in this interaction with people who have this disorder and for everyone around them, family, friends, lovers anybody. The best way I have dealt with this is to speak about the here and now, reality, because they build many walls. The problem for the pain is because its not love, its illusion, its too good to be true, well its not.
C