Thank you Porphyria for writing that narcisists will
“throw a fit and simply move onto their next target”
My father has NPD and I am in therapy and have very little contact with him. I stopped dating NPD a few years ago (probably because I stopped dating). I have just kicked to the curb, and hopefully for good, my last self-absorbed platonic friend. I had started collecting emotional mooches as a teenager.
What my biggest challange now is dealing with self-involved bosses and supervisors. I have an incredibly hard time dealing with them, more than most others who are in my situation.
I start moving into those old roles I had when I was a child trying to deal with my father. I would bust my ass to please him, he would be abusive, and then I would turn angry.
That is where I am now. I just have to tell myself that until I can get into another situation (which will hopefully happen by early fall) I have to not give them the reaction they want.
I was thinking about Milly’s sister and wondering if she acted like my department chair at work! It is strange how easy these NPD can lie, even over email.
Milly hand in there, and I will try to maintain sane until I can launch my own business and be through we these people for good.
I think it is great that you and your good friend are both on the listserv. One of my good friends has a mother with NPD and I am always trying to get her to join these groups.