Hello Sir,
I am new too, this is my first email to respond to, but I was moved by your emotions. I have been there, or in the same vicinity anyway.
I am the mom to a 4 1/2 yr. old boy, diagnosed with HD shortly after birth. His is not total, but he did have about 3 feet of his intestines removed. He went thru 2 colosotmy surgeries (the first pull-thru did not work because all of the affected intestine was not removed)–this is VERY unusual. I think most kids have a colostomy for 8-12 months, then they will go back in to remove how ever much intestine is affected, then they will re-attatch his remaining intestine–then it is a wait and see situation. It takes a while, maybe a week or more for thier system to start working again while recovering. If it works (meaning he starts pooping), then you manage it from there. There is ALOT of trail and error, but you begin to be an expert on your child’s patterns.
If it doesnt work, then that is when you may be looking at a colostomy again. We thought for awhile we would have a colostomy bag forever–we (my husband and I)were able to accept it, finally. Kids are so accepting and adaptable. They only believe something is wrong with them or different if we teach them that is the case.
Even tho this is not the road we would pick for our sons, I have to say to you I have met several kids with this diagnosis. NONE of them blame thier parents. They have all been the most caring, confident, compassionate children I have ever seen. Your son is very lucky to have you for a dad. With you involved, he will accept who he was made to be and he will be awsome at it.
The first 3 years were very rocky for us, but we are very good now. The things I wished someone would have told me when my son was born…
TRUST YOUR GUT INSTINCT–no one knows your son as well as you will
ASK QUESTIONS until you understand what is going on with your son–you will need the information to help him
WRITE DOWN WHAT THE DR. SAYS–you will not remember it otherwise
and most importantly, love your son the way he is–without guilt. You could not have known this would happen, he will only love and accept himself as much as you do.
Best wishes to you and I will keep you and your son in my prayers.
PS My son now loves to show off his belly scar to his friends–he is the only one with a smiley face on his tummy.
Tonya, mom to Cole
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From: Americancyco hirschsprungs-cpt6175@lists.careplace.com
To: tonya_d_stewart@yahoo.com
Sent: Tuesday, October 2, 2007 10:47:03 PM
Subject: [hirschsprungs] New born w/ HD