My almost 5 year old most likely has this and I am looking to connect with other families in the same situation. I need ways to make it through the day without tearing the rest of my hair out.
He is our only child and receives occupational and speech therapy for other disorders.
Thanks.
I am a mother of 2 boys. The eldest has partial diagnosis of ODD and ADHD. We have had to fight the system to find him help. Everyone from Doctors, Teachers, Social Workers and support Aids believe there is more to this little man. We have an appointment with the ACH in two weeks to start the process of a complete assessment on him.
I am looking to talk to others who have had to fight the system to get what the need for there child, especially those of you who are located in Alberta.
Hello everyone. I am a caregiver of a 14 year old with ODD and ADD. I have heard of this condition before, but never had to deal with anyone with it so I have never researched it. I am hoping to find out more about this condition so I will know more about how to deal with this young man. He is a pretty good kid, but does have his times when he isn’t. I know that some of it is being a teen, but some of it is also having ODD and ADD. From what his mom has told me, he has a pretty mild case of ODD, but he was much worse as a young child. She has had to work hard to get him where he is now.
When working with children who have ADD and ODD tendencies two of the biggest things to keep in mind is structure and consistency. The third is pick your battles. In other words, establish very clear and firm rules of the family, rules that all adults in the childs life are willing to remain consistant with, and make sure your son knows and understands what is expected of him within this structure. Remain consistant with consequences when he doesn’t comply, but try to even more often, catch him doing the right thig and praise him big for his accomplishments. He may sabatogue your attempt at saying anything positive about him by following up your statement with an inappropriate behavior. Just call him on it if he does it. Say, "You know I am aware that every time I tell you that you have done something well, you follow my statement with an unacceptable behavior or phrase. What do you suppose is behind all that? Maybe you might want to go sit quietly in your room for a little while and see if you can figure this out. When you have the answer you may come tell me."
Also, I do not know if you are familiar with Love and Logic Parenting Program, but it works very well for children who are in similar circumstances. The books, “Parenting With Love and Logic” and “Parenting Teens With Love and Logic,” are available online at Amazon.com and you can find the older editions used for a reasonable price.
In addition to these suggestions, do you know if you have any wrap around programs in your state? Any near to where you live? Wrap around services works like this. A child my go to an individual therapist at an office or have a mobile therapist come to the house to work with the child. In addition, there my be a Behavioral Specialist who assists the parents in writing a goal plan that the child, family, treatment team, and school will work together to implement. If that is not enough the child may also get approved for TSS hours. A TSS is a theraputic support staff and it is their job to be in the home between 5 to as many as 20 hours a week helping everyone to do their part and to try and assist the client in having success. I am a TSS worker in Pennsylvania and I work with children who have ODD, PDD NOS, ADHD, Autism, Asperger’s Syndrome, and any other number of disorders of childhood.
Hi I have a very difficult 4 year old who is constantly in trouble, breaking things or trying to hurt myself or his younger brother. I am hoping to find some solutions and support from other single moms or families in general that deal with the same things on a day to day basis.
Hello. I am a single mother of a 7 year old. He has been recently diagnosed with ADHD and ODD. I’m very interested in anything I can find out about either of these issues.
Thanks!
Hi I am Marie and mother of a 3 almost 4 year old who was diagnosed with a conduct disorder a couple of weeks after her 3rd b-day. I am now convinced that she actually has ODD and she will be evaluated after we move. In the meantime she has been out of control lately and I am about to pull out my hair. She also acts like she does not get enough attention from us, when she gets TONS! You could literally spend all day holding, reading, tickling, playing, singing, crafts, whatever and it is not enough. I am exhausted and looking for help in techniques to help her control herself better and for us to find some peace and less stress in the home.
Hi everyone. I am a mom of a 9 year old (LCG) and a 7 year old (JKG). LCG has been diagnosed with ADHD and PTSD and was just recently (yesterday) diagnosed with ODD through a 6 hour neuropsych eval that he had done over the holidays. I am just hoping to get support, recommendations, and maybe some answers from the group. JKG is also diagnosed with different disorders.
hi there, i work with the careplace team. i think careplace is awesome. i hope it will really help people to share, support eachother and learn. we can all use support and understanding and it is so important for all of us who have experienced difficulties to have a safe and informative forum in which to do so. thanks for visiting - it is really rewarding for all of us to see people reaching out to eachother - it is what careplace is all about.