Please help if you can

Anxiety
#1

I wrote this below in the My Story section, so far I have met 1 very nice person who thinks I am on the wrong med’s but honestly I have tried so many different ones and none seem to help. My condition is getting worse and I feel that I am losing the battle for simple relief from this never ending nightmare…

Please if anyone has any ideas or suggestions I would be most grateful…

Thanks,
Randy

Hi,

Hello my name is Randy, I am 42 years old and I live in Middletown, CT and I do not have any family in CT, I moved here 3 years ago, as to be closer to my children. I am happily divorced but I miss my children dearly. My ex-wife has played ever single game you can think of with denying me access to my children. I have always paid my child support and provided medical, dental and vision insurance for them. But the only help I get from the Courts is the Judge telling her to stop interfering which lasts all of a month at best.

My problem that is seem to have progressed to an advanced stage of some type of social / avoidant personality disorder I think, along with panic attacks that have been more acute and frequent. I am in fear of losing my job, as during the last two months I seem to get right to the verge of a panic attack and than I actually have to leave work. I cannot continue like this, it is ripping me apart, my life is in a tail spin and I really need help. Now within the last several weeks my condition has worsened to the point where I physically get sick after eating just about anything.

I have lived a very stressful life, my father was an alcoholic who could never hold a job and used to beat my mother and my 2 sisters on a regular basis. My mother was diagnosed with ovarian cancer when she was 30 years old. She died 2 years later at the age of 32. I was 8 years old at the time. My father 2 months later just got up and left one night. Thank God my older sister knew how to call my aunt and she picked us up. I was than sent to live with my uncle and his family as my cousin was 1 year younger than me. He was relentless in making fun of me that I had no mother or father, which caused me to fight with him on a more than regular basis. After 2 years my aunt and uncle put me in foster care, and on my 16 birthday I counted that I had lived with 9 different families in 17 different houses.

I despised the fact that I was a foster kid, and I became an emancipated minor at 16. At 17 I joined the US Army in DEP (Delayed Entry Program) and worked a full time job while completing High School. I wanted to become a helicopter pilot, but I scored very high on the ASVAB test and was offered a huge bonus to join the Military Intelligence which I did, I have seen things that I am still not allowed to talk about but they pop up in my dreams and nightmares from time to time.

I have been seeing a Psychiatrist and have not been getting any relief with him, I have explained in detail what has been happening to me and I all I get is a different medications, I have been on Diazepam for years now, just 2 weeks ago I was put on Seroquel but I started have heart pains so I stopped taken it, I called his office and explained what was happening and have yet to receive a call back. Also I was given Lithium but after reading the prescription information form I became very nervous and would not take it. Now I am on Pexeva but again I am not seeing any relief with it. My hair is so long right now and I cannot even go into a barber shop to get it cut, it is so sad my friends who live in NY (where I am from) all cannnot believe what has happened to me, I was always the most outgoing and carefree guy you could meet.

I do not drink any alcohol at all, nor do I take any illegal drugs. I do smoke cigarettes and I am trying to quit but have had no luck with lasting more than an hour or so.

I am looking for a friend that can understand what I am going thru. I am a good hearted man who keeps his word and I try each and everyday to do the right thing.

Please help me to overcome this before it overcomes me.

#2

I sincerely thank you for your reply, I am will try what you have reccomend and let you know how it works for me…

Thanks again,
Take care / Randy

#3

Thanks to both of you for your advice, forgive me I am new to this site and still learning about it. I will be seeing my doctor next week and I plan on asking for Lexapro.

I have been on this Pexeva for almost 3 weeks now, have either of you taken this? if so any luck with it or any bad side effects?

Thanks,
Randy

#4

Randy,
You might want to consider looking for another Dr . The one thing that disturbs me most about your whole post is that it has been two weeks since you called your Dr about a new med that you are on and he has not yet called you back @!!! THat is ridiculas !!! I too have been on Lexapro and think it is a good drug to try, as well as trazadone for sleep , but I would seriously think about shopping around for a new Dr , remember you pay the Dr not the other way around . Good luck !!!

#5

View www.theroadback.org on Lexapro.

#6

thanks for the information on treatment for ptsd. i havent been made aware that there were any treatments other than the standard psychotherapy and medication.

#7

LOVE YA TOO, DREEN GIRL!

#8

Hi

Man you got problems! Have you tried Lexapro. I take that for anxiety disorder. It might help you. Ask you doc and in the meantime I hope things get better for you soon.

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#9

Lexapro seems to be a very popular med. I know alot of people have had success with it. I think your friend is right. You just haven’t found the right meds. Have you tried Lexapro? And have you tried Trazadone at night for sleep?
Just know it isn’t the end. Help is there. Sometimes it takes a long time to find it. Don’t give up…

#10

I HAVE A SIMILAR BACKGROUND TO YOURS WITH THE ABUSIVE HOME. I WAS DIAGNOSED WITH PTSD BUT ALSO HAVE SOCIAL ANXIETY DISORDER. I SHAKE EVERY TIME THAT I HAVE TO BE AROUND PEOPLE OR HAVE PANIC ATTACKS WHICH ARE VERY EMBARRASING. I HAVENT BEEN ABLE TO FIND RELIEF EITHER AND WONDER WHAT I AM GOING TO DO TO OVERCOME THIS. I STOPPED WORKING 3 YEARS AGO AND AM ON DISABILITY BECAUSE I LITERALLY CANT BE IN A SOCIAL SITUATION. SOMETIMES I DONT EVEN SPEAK BECAUSE IM AFRAID OF MAKING A MISTAKE OR STUDDERING. I WAS AN OUTGOING SUCCESSFUL PERSON UNTIL THIS SOCIAL ANXIETY CAME INTO MY LIFE. I CAN FEEL WHAT YOU ARE GOING THROUGH. I HOPE YOU CAN GET SOME RELIEF.

#11

I believe that you may be suffering from PTSD: See Post Traumatic Stress Disorder, at http://www.ezy-build.net.nz/~shaneris on pages 33 - 34, and examine the http://1-800-therapist.com/ website, and use the locators in sections 33 - 34, and section 1, and phone book, and/or various associations for psychiatrists and psychologists, to find the nearest one using EMDR (Eye Movement Desensitization and Reprocessing therapy).

If unable to afford it, or to locate one nearby, contact the county/local mental health agency: any therapy on offer may prove helpful, particularly if combined with appropriate medication. (The following is a variant of EMDR therapy, which has been used successfully for those people suffering from Post Traumatic Stress Disorder, insomnia, and anxiety: it is easily learned, quick to use, yet can be very effective.

It is easy to be dismissive of it, because it may seem a little strange, but is well worth trying, for at least a few weeks, to see how it effective it is in your case). First, sit comfortably, and take a deep breath. Then, without moving your head, move your eyes from the left, to the right, and back again, taking around a second to do so (say: “a thousand and one”: this takes approximately a second).

Repeat this procedure (without the words, although you can count, subvocally if you like) 20 times. Then close your eyes and relax. Become aware of any tension or discomfort you feel. Then open your eyes, and take another deep breath, and repeat step one, closing your eyes, and relaxing afterwards, in the same manner. Then, repeat the procedure one last time.

Some people may find that this is all they need do: others find that they need 2 sessions in quick succession, but professional treatment is the best option, if you can access it. With practice, you may find that you can employ this technique with your eyes closed, thereby enabling a much wider window of opportunity to use in public, without attracting unwanted attention.

Professional EMDR is always much preferable, and Opester, (who gives it a glowing recommendation) a therapist with more than 20 years experience, stated that it was one of only 2 disorders which can be completely cured.

At ezy build, panic attacks are addressed in section 8 (see PANIC: COMPREHENSIVE POST first) and stress in section 42 (view page i first) and anxiety in section 6 (see page N first). Someone in your position would be well advised to only use medication to provide short term support, while you become proficient in coping skills. Medications should be first checked out at www.drugs.com & http://crazymeds.us & http://www.askapatient.com If you are fairly suggestible (40% of people are) professional hypnotherapy may help, or NeuroLinguistic Programming, or biofeedback, but maintain a chosen relaxation technique, and consider trying yoga and/or t’ai chi (first 3 pages of section 2, at ezy build refer).

#12

UNFORTUNATELY SOMETIMES MEDS DON’T WORK. IT IS A CHANGE OF LIFESTYLE. THAT IS TRUE IN MY CASE. HOPEFULLY THIS WILL WORK FOR ME. IN A FEW WEEKS I WILL SEEK A NEW DR. ONCE I SETTLE A FEW FINANCIAL ISSUES. I AM TIRED OF TAKING MEDS. I THINK IF I COULD FIND THE RIGHT THERAPIST I CAN DO THIS. THAT IS MY GOAL. I HAVE MY FRIENDS ON CP AND MY FRIENDS AT HOME AND MY FAMILY SO MAYBE THIS IS AN OPTION. I AM SO SICK OF MEDICATION BUT I DO KNOW ALOT IS UP TO ME. THAT IS WHY I CHAT WITH MY FRIENDS ESPECIALLY ON CP MY 2 FAVS. IT JUST SEEMS LIKE ALOT IS HOW I PERCEIVE MY LIFE. THERE ARE MOMENTS WHEN I FEEL GOOD. EVEN IF FOR 10 MINUTES. IT IS A START. I HAVE A LONG CHALLENGE AHEAD. LIKE WE ALL DO. FRIENDS ARE THE BEST AND I DO THANK YOU ONCE AGAIN BON AND LINDY MY 2 BEST. LOVE YOU BOTH VERY MUCH.

#13

I have also have a lot of trouble with my medication not working at times like you mentioned. I am still trying to find the right combination. I hope to someday! Good luck to you!