Situational depression

Depression
#1

 im so down at the moment and have been feeling depressed the past few days.  i think ive got depression back (last time i had some depression was for several mths last year).  Things are just so darn hard right now...and its got hold to find that light.  NOTHING is right in my life and i cant fix things.

  i think im going to have to leave yet another relationship cause of that (its my current relationship situation being the icing on the cake).  i just hate this.. i hate things the way they are and just cant see an end in sight.  Even if i change my situation.. all i can see is problems and issues ahead for me. 

 I just cant see the light ......

#2

don't expect things to be bad because then they will be bad. change your mind and the rest will follow. i'm in that process now. change the things that you can change and accept the things you cannot. take one day at a time. leave todays problems in today, try to resolve everything for that day in that day. if you are not married and are unhappy in your relationship, i'd say to move on. you'll never find happiness if you don't let it find you.

beejay

#3

hi taniaaust1, really hope it wont be a long one for you.  It is good I think if you can recgonise an eposide coming on early, pick up the warning signs and start taking things easy. I dont know, but maybe its not a good idea to make decisions when your in a bad way.  Just concentrate on doing anything to take the pressure of yourself and being really really good to yourself.  I have read of you before and I think your great, hang on in there. x

#4

hi taniaaust1, really hope it wont be a long one for you.  It is good I think if you can recgonise an eposide coming on early, pick up the warning signs and start taking things easy. I dont know, but maybe its not a good idea to make decisions when your in a bad way.  Just concentrate on doing anything to take the pressure of yourself and being really really good to yourself.  I have read of you before and I think your great, hang on in there. x

#5

 I HAVE TO AGREE WITH PLUM.I HOPE IT GOES AWAY SOON. I USE TO THINK WHEN I GOT BETTER IT WAS GONE,NO NO IT ALWAYS SEEMS TO CREEP BACK. IT SEEMS LIKE IM' IN A GOOD RUN RIGHT. WE HAVE THIS DAMN DISEASE CALLED DEPRESSION,TRY HARD NOT TO LET IT TAKE OVER.

#6

Hi Tania

You cant be depressed - you live in Australia (Sorry but I miss that place so bad!!).

I think you are a very intelligent and resourceful woman and you will come thru this shining.  The one thing I find reassuring about having a history of depression is that when you get thru one episode you know that you can do it again.  NOt to say that it doesnt suck big time!

I have just come out of a 6 month episode and the main thing I have learnt this time round is to focus on action rather than thought.  The more I take the required action to help myself out, (even when I feel like sleepin all day and starving myself to death), the more I start regaining a sense of control and with that a sense of purpose and self-worth.

I dont know if Im a help or not, but I try :)

 

 

#7

((((hugs you all)))) thank you.

 Ive got all the same very horrid situations going on still, as when I wrote that post (except my dad is out of hospital now :).. but Im actually coping and feeling better right now.  I just hope I can keep on holding up.

  My CFS specialist is helping me a lot write now and actually has gone to the trouble of emailing me twice  the past week, along with some others for me, trying to help me out with some of my situations. (he's written to some gov. depts for me in support of me).

  He's making me feel like someone cares and is looking out for me (and actually able to help me), and so that has helped me quite a bit too. 

  I feel like others are holding me up, helping me to walk my way forwards throu the jungle.

#8

Sadly I know all about situational depression. It first started when i was living with my then soon to be husband. he broke off the wedding two weeks before. Long story short he begged me about three months later and we got married. It was up and down and up and down. He left me so many times but by then I had been diagnosed with Fibromyaligia and degenerative disc disease. Ended up beating me up. I got screwed in my divorce he got the millions and the business i co owned. Since then I have been in and out of depression. Now he was late with my alimony which ends in December and being so sick with pain I don’t know what i am going to do. Then my daughter moved and got married last summer. She is heear for a visit and is leaving Monday. I love her so much and I am going to be so very sad to see her leave. I am alone and lonely. No relationship and I hate myself for being so sick. I used to work out and do it all now I am lucky to walk before crying out in pain. ALlergic to pain killers and well life is so hard . Financial worries and no real family but my mother and sister who live together. That is another story. I hurt for you for I know what it is like to feel that there is no way out. No light at the end of the tunnel. I wish i could have better advice for you but I don’t. Just breathe. I also suffer from anxiety. No wonder huh ? As I say one minute at a time. Hugs to you .