I DON’T KNOW WHAT TO DO. JOB SUCKS. I FEEL SO OUT OF PLACE. I DON’T BELONG IN THIS JOB. I BELONG IN THE REAL FINANCIAL WORLD. CREDIT UNION IS A TOTAL DIFFERENT WORLD. I NEED TO BE IN THE REAL FINANCIAL BANKING LIFE. EVERYTHING I LEARNED BEFORE DISABILITY HAS CHANGED. I AM STARTING ALL OVER . TOO OLD FOR THIS BS
Sorry the job has got you down. Not really sure just what the difference between credit union and the “real” financial world is, but can’t you use the current job as a stepping stone towards what you really want?
UNFORTUNATELY NO. BIG DIFFERENCE. WHEN I WENT BACK AFTER DISABILITY SO MANY WERE GONE. EMPLOYEES I MEAN. EVERYTHING IS LOOK ON THE INTERNET TO SEE WHAT YOU NEED TO DO WHICH IS EMBARISING AND BULLSHIT. YOU SHOULD KNOW WHAT TO DO WHEN SOMEONE COMES TO YOUR DESK. THEIR TRAINING IS BULLSHIT.
Sounds very frustrating for you. 
IT IS BUT I HAVE MY VERY GOOD FRIENDS ON CP TO HELP ME THRU THE TOUGH TIMES.
Aww Dreen, sorry that you are going through such a tough time! I wish I could help you with the job thing, but you know I am always here for you and always just a phone call away, hon. Don’t forget that!!!
YOU CAN OVERCOME THIS. IT MUST BE DISCOURAGING TO BE PUT SOMEWHERE THAT YOU DONT BELONG. I HAD A SIMILIAR EXPERIENCE IN MY OWN LIFE AND ITS A FRUSTRATING FEELING. REMEMBER YOU ALWAYS HAVE FRIENDS HERE AT CAREPLACE IF YOU EVER WANT TO TALK.
Hang in there Doreen, There are alot of changes, but you can do it. Things seem to change quickly when you have been away for a little bit, but you will catch on, and then it will be easy. I don’t like change, but if I can learn (and I am older than YOU) you can learn, and then move into a better position, or with another bank or doing something else with finance that you like better. Your smart and you have all us behind you!
DREEN,
~ IT's FRIDAY!!!!!!!! ~
THANK GOD. I WASN’T SO BAD TODAY AS YESTERDAY. I WILL E-MAIL YOU BON WITH THE ISSUES. NOW I AM GOING TO TAKE MY SANTANA OUT FOR A WALK. I NEED TO E-MAIL LINDY ALSO. WHEN I AM LIKE THE WAY I WAS YESTERDAY I DON’T WANT TO BE ON THE COMPUTER. ALL I WANT TO DO IS SLEEP. THANK YOU ALL FOR CARING. YOU ALL ARE THE BEST. HUGS AND FRIENDSHIP.
Ask yourself: “Why do I feel depressed, and when did I first start to feel this way: can I associate this with any recent change in my life?” (if so, it is probably situational depression: counselling, such as Cognitive Behavioural Therapy is indicated). Or, was it a more gradual thing, with no apparent cause? (nutritional deficiencies, hypothyroidism, environmental toxicity, or reactions to some medications, etc., becomes more likely as the cause).
Depression: I KNOW, from experience, how difficult it is, but once you drag yourself out of bed, throw on a dressing gown, and have a little time in the morning light, preferably doing easy stretching exercises, then have a shower, a cuppa, and either fish, or scrambled eggs, and possibly bacon for breakfast.
These provide a lasting energy boost: no carbohydrates for 2 hrs, or extremely little; a teaspoon of sugar is OK, but Xylitol is preferable, (health food stores) or fruit sugar (fructose, such as “Fruisana”, from supermarket sugar aisles) or even a LITTLE honey. Splash cold water on your face, to revive you, as needed. No daytime sleeping; only 8 - 9 hrs at night. Overall though, low to moderate levels of protein suit most people best, with considerably more of the complex carbohydrates, preferably from wholefoods, and a smaller amount of fat, or oil.
Antidepressants work quicker than the following; 2 - 6 weeks, but you may have to adjust dosage, or types, whereas St. John’s wort is effective for most people, tolerance doesn’t develop, and the few side effects don’t occur often, and even then are normally not severe.
It doesn't cause sleeping problems, or weight change, but usually takes at least 2, and generally 4 - 6 weeks to become effective. A recent, independent German double blind study showed it to be as effective as Sertraline (marketed in the USA as Zoloft: a commonly prescribed antidepressant) in cases of major depression, with far fewer side effects, and those were generally better tolerated, with a lower rate of discontinuation. Unlike antidepressants, where sexual dysfunction is a common side effect, it happens much more rarely with St. John's wort (I have noticed no effect in this area).
Remember back to a time when life was full of promise, or a day when you felt particularly good, or possibly excited from a good result. Emotional states are associated with memories, and if it isn’t major depression, this method can help.
A multidimensional approach to treating depression without medication follows. All except for no. (7.) are safe to use with medication, but not St. John's wort, because of interactions, and it's sensible to check out anything else first with your doctor.
(1.) Take 4 Omega 3 fish oil supplements, daily: (certified free of mercury) it is best if consumed with an antioxidant, such as an orange, or grapefruit, or their FRESHLY SQUEEZED juice. If vitamin E is added, it should be certified as being 100% from natural sources, or it may be synthetic: avoid it. Also take a vitamin B complex which is certified as being 100% of natural origin; a deficiency in vitamin B9 (folic acid, or folate) is known to cause depression. Around 30% - 40% of depressed people have low vitamin B12 levels. Depressed females using the contraceptive pill may benefit from vitamin B6 supplements.
(2.) Work up slowly to at least 20 minutes minutes of exercise, daily, or 30 - 60 mns, 5 times weekly. Too much exercise can cause stress, which isn't wanted when dealing with depression.
(3.) Occupational therapy (keeping busy allows little time for unproductive introspection, and keeps mental activity out of less desirable areas of the brain).
(4.) Use daily, one of the relaxation methods in sections 2, 2.c, 2.i, or 11, and/or yoga, Tai Chi, and/or the EFT, in sections 2.q, 2.o, and section 53, at http://www.ezy-build.net.nz/~shaneris whichever works best for you.
(5.) Initially, at least, some form of counselling, preferably either Cognitive Behavio(u)ral Therapy, or Rational Emotive Behavio(u)ral Therapy.
(6.) Maintain a mood chart, and daily activities schedule, as per page R, in section 2, at ezy build.
(7.) As options, if desired, either a known, effective herbal remedy, such as St. John's wort, (the strength varies, but the supplier should be using a standardised hypericin content, so follow the directions) or supplements, such as SAMe, or Inositol (from vitamin and health food stores, some supermarkets, or mail order: view section 55).
If 5HTP is used to boost serotonin levels, (which are low in depressed people) it is best taken with a high carbohydrate, minimal protein meal, like pasta with tomato & basil, and avoid protein for 90 minutes, before, and after, to maximise the amount crossing the blood/brain barrier.
Also, 80% of people in the Western world have low magnesium levels, and these are known to cause depression & anxiety. Try the magnesium supplement types shown in http://www.real-depression-help.com/ Some of these will be available in pharmacies, or supermarkets. Low levels of calcium, and potassium can also cause depression. Have your blood tested, and correct any deficiencies, preferably through improved nutrition.
An improvement can be noticed in as little as a week, if a deficiency is the cause. Also, iodised salt is much preferable to regular salt (one of the treatments in books on depression is iodine drops).
Try to imagine, as vividly as possible, a time in the not too distant future, when you have overcome this temporary setback, and things are much better.
Most depressive episodes last for around 6 months, which is why treatments should be maintained for at least that long, and preferably 1 - 2 years. Then wean off medication, or herbal remedies, over at least 2 weeks, with medical advice, and see how things go, but I would maintain the other treatments, with the possible exception of therapy. Even then, realise that depression recurs in about 50% of cases: know your early warning signs, and be quick to act at the first hint of it returning.
This is a shortened version of the much more comprehensive post, which may be seen on page R, in section 2 of ezy build, above, but to gain full appreciation, it’s really best to view the whole of section 2.
If you are already taking antidepressants, and want to use the wort, I suggest that you taper off the antidepressant, over at least 2 weeks, with medical advice as to how long to take, before beginning the wort, which is believed to act by increasing the availability of serotonin, norepinephrine and dopamine, moderately, rather than selectively giving the serotonin levels of the brain a large boost.
I HOPE YOU ARE FEELING BETTER SOON, DREEN!!!
Can you talk to your supervisor about this.
Great idea, Fartblossom!
HAHAHAHA!!!
Dreen,
Feel better my little one. You’ve had a run on down time and it’s time for you to start coming up and feeling better. I hope that the job starts looking a little better this week. I am pulling for you!
Bon
ACTUALLY IT IS GETTING BETTER BUT THE MORNINGS GETTING OUT OF BED IS HORRIBLE. I WISH THAT FEELING WOULD GO AWAY. I AM LEARNING THE NEW WAY RATHER QUICKLY NOW BUT STILL ISSUES. CAN’T TALK TO THE SUPERVISOR ABOUT THE ISSUE CAUSE IT WOULD DO NO GOOD. I HAVE TO STICK IT OUT UNTIL A NEW MANAGER COMES ALONG WHICH WILL BE IN A FEW MONTHS HOPEFULLY. BUT THANK YOU MY GOOD FRIENDS ON CP. HOPEFULLY AS DAYS GO ON I WILL BE ON CP MORE.
Dreen,
Take it one day at a time. I know, I HATE that saying, but it is so true sometimes. Hang in there girl. I know, mornings can suck, and having to get up is the worst and push yourself to get ready and put on that face to face the world. I am so proud of you though, you have really done a good job so far, much better than you have given yourself credit for! It WILL work out!
B
TO BE HONEST WITH YOU NO MEDICATION EITHER. I STOPPED IT. GOT TIRED OF IT NOT WORKING. NOTHING WORKED SO I WILL KEEP TRYING. NO MEDS. JUST HOPEFULLY A CHANGE IN ATITUDE IN LIFE. I HOPE.