Hi I posted this a couple days ago om the intro discussion of this group the realixwed it should have a its own topic.
Come on folks we need to talk about PC. We are a small group who dont have that many people to help. We need to be communicating. I know i could use someone to talk to, and I want to hel all I can.
Ron
Hi
I have been a care giver to my wife for 28 months. She was Dx’d with adenocarcinoma in March of 2005. She has been through surgery (distal), radiation, and various chemo’s. She now is being treated for a recurrance sine July of last year.
I just want you all to know, especially those just starting down this road, that there is hope, maybe not a cure, but not the months that most Onc’s try to tell you. Adenocarcinoma is a very aggressive disease, but can be controled.
It did not take long for me to realize that since this disease, and treatments effects everyone differently, and the effects are so unique as the person dealing with them, most Onc’s dont offer a lot of advice on the possible side effects of the cancer or treatments.
Empower your self, research all you can, join groups like this and discuss the issues you or your loved one is facing. The support you will get for both medical issues, and just importantly the emotional issues will be invaluable.
Since I am not a patient I cannot offer much emotional advise to them.
Even though this has been effecting our family for such a long time, i cannot begin to think of what goes thru a patients mind.
FOR THE CAREGIVERS
As I said earlier, empower yourself with knowledge, it may seem overwhelming but that knowledge will be instumental in making decisions.
Remember to ask questions of your Onc (He works for you!!) Write your questions down in a binder or notebook. tkae it to all appointments and write things down. It will amaze you that no matter how well you think you know whwt to ask, if you get an unexpected result of a lab test or scan, your mind won’t keep up. Request copies of all lab tests and scans. This will save precious time in the future, if for some reason you need a second opinion, or need to change your doctors.
Do not allow this to take over your life. I initally made that mistake and it took a long time to get over it. You can’t afford to be in a state of confusion all the time.
You will be assuming so many additional responsibilities, it will be difficult to manage them all, but with help you can do it.
Take time for yourself, this is so parmount in your mental health as a caregiver. You have to have a little free time, or this will consume you.
Accept and if need be ask for help from family and friends. You cannot do it all.
Last of all go with you instincts, if you feel your onc is not aggressive enough then tell them. If they dont seem like they really care. Never be afraid to investigate a new Onc.
I apologize for the long post but if this info helps, it was worth it
If I can be of offer any advice or suppot please feel free ask.
Ron C