Value of Apologizing

Narcissistic personality disorder
#1

I’ve mentioned it quite a few times on various spaces on the net, but one of the things that was haunting me for the longest time was that I was having a hard time getting over the circle of friends my ex turned against me. They were quite rude and viscous to me, and I often got the impression that I didn’t try hard enough, or in the right way, or that I didn’t care or love her enough… as if love cures mental disorders. They all thought I was abusive, and that I was the crazy one, and went totally psycho and treated her like shit. They were happy should could move into a loving supportive relationship where she could be successful…

Things have changed though because history has repeated itself. I have received an apology and apparently her now ex friends have finally recognized the true nature of her issues and most likely no longer hold me responsible. They have all finally dropped the whole asperger’s nonsense and recognize that they are dealing with personality disorders…

#2

iIbet that feels good…sort of cleared your name.
I bet you alway felt like everything was’your fault"and she projected s…t on to you.
well with you not around…you could no longer be"scapegoat"and she revealed her true nature…absolved!

#3

I don’t know if its sunk in yet. I did feel better yesterday, but today I enter in with a little more caution. I’ve had enough backfire in my face before. It looks though I may be able to walk away with a bit more closure than I used to have. And yes, it has been very validating to witness my ex treat her now ex-partner in pretty much the same way she treated me… only this time nobody fell for the cover up. She always ends her relationships in the way… she tried to convince everybody that her partner suddenly turned psychotic. It does definately seem projection related =)

#4

with respect…she sounds the psycho…my ex used to put his psychotic behaviour at my door (and thought i was mad…).after a while you start to BELIEVE this shit!
He hated things"batted back"at him…drove him crazy.
I wanted to"clear my name:“too…this is imprtant.
They put their horrible"traits”"out there"where they dont have to take responsibility for them
(we did/do.)…scapegoating for sure…then they just look for another kind/caring person to target…sad

#5

Oh don’t worry they definately get theirs! My Ex had everyone thinking I was crazy. Those who knew the truth ended up speaking out for me. And the tables were turned. I thought it was very appropriate.

#6

give them enough rope…and they will hang themselves,this is true.
when someones in "self-destruct"mode,they will take you down with them…people do reveal themselves
Good old projection again…

#7

Ugh, I think I’ve gone and triggered myself. I’m beginning to feel like I did all those years long ago. The environment this person creates is just plain toxic and seems to suck the life force out of all those around.

#8

Triggered YOUSELF(…priceless)…lol…how the hell did you do that one…!?
is reading this stuff tHAT bad…lol

#9

No… I left my ex and all her crazy behind long ago. But the current people in her life have now been devastated and spun in circles and I’ve gotten involved to a small degree, but its triggering nonetheless.

#10

wastedyouth…that triggering is good…(obviously some things werent sorted and are still an"issue"so to speak)…no pain,no gain as they say…just go with the flow man!you are stronger than all that crap.
{i mean this in a poitive way…sorry if it seems offensive.}

#11

Re no pain…no gain
every time anything is painful…or triggers an emotion,its a sign that unconscious"forces"are in operation?
I have felt’triggered"by certain things…an i find this a"clue"in a way,to a particular “issue"also i have personally found that these feelings when worked through bring relief!
For example…i find that tears are very’healing’and bring great release.
could this possibly be due to being repressed in N relationships for so long?
Every"action’having an opposite and equal REACTION” which does not occur?
Im sure many have these occasional"pangs"