what do you think about abortion?
I feel deep down that abortion is wrong. My reason for that is that I believe that God creates and gives life. Everyone has a purpose in life no matter how long you are here on Earth for. God will not take anyone before their time. I had to make a hard choice to have an abortion or to carry on with my pregnancy. I choose to keep going even though the road is rough God is my rock and I firmly believe that if my daughter is to live just a few hours/days/or even years that will be God’s will. I can’t imagine aborting my daughter’s life and not know what God has planned for her.
I also Believe that abortion is wrong, God gives you a baby to carry for a reason, even if your baby isn’t going to make it. Mine didn’t make it and I knew for the whole pregnency and I had a choice to abort. I am so glad that I didn’t because I got to spend thoes precious 15 hours with my baby.
I know this message was written a long time ago but my daughter recently was diagnosed with anecephaly. I spend many days debating what I wanted to do, either terminate my pregnancy or carry her to term. At first I was sure that I wanted to carry her to term. After reading a couple books on other couples and mothers experiences I decided that carrying her to term was not what I wanted. There was two stories that stuck out in my mind that helped me make my decision. One lady induced her labor at 22 weeks and when her baby was born she lived for 16 minutes and it was the more traumatizing time of her life. Her child came into this world suffering. Her lungs were not fully developed so when she passed away all she knew was pain and suffering. Another women gave birth to her child after nine months and her baby lived six hours. Her child also was born into suffering. When I decided to stop her heart I did it out of love. I prayed and prayed every night and I felt that the best decision was to let her leave this earth with only the knowledge of love from her mother and father and family. She left this earth with no knowledge of suffering. I felt at peace knowing that. I am pro life and I feel that abortion is wrong. If your child has a chance it is completely wrong to steal that life from him/her. My child had no chance of living and what I did was not a selfish act. I did not do it because I could not handle having a child I did it out of pure love. I do not think of it as an abortion. What I did does not even compare to an abortion. I sent her to heaven so she will only know love. I do not judge any women for what they chose when they are faced with this decision. There is nothing harder than finding out that your child is not able to live outside your womb. I pray for any women who has to go through this. God bless my beautiful angel Elizabeth Marie. May all who are faced with this terrible disorder find strength is this hard time. I hope this will be the hardest thing you will ever have to be faced with in your life. Your child will always be your baby and will always look down on you as your angel. Love always, a grieving and loving mother of Elizabeth.
I think you did the right thing. Most important it is what you think is the
right thing to do. It is your decision and yours alone. Good luck and I
hope that you continue to try to have a baby. We did and now we are blessed
with a beautful son.
Take Care
Chuck
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From: “Lindsay” anencephaly-cpt5089@lists.careplace.com
To: cdigerlando@cfl.rr.com
Sent: Tuesday, January 15, 2008 5:35 PM
Subject: Re: [anencephaly] what do you think about abortion?
Me and my wife also chose to terminate our pregnancy, it was the hardest decision we have ever made, but my wife psychiatric ally could not handle feeling him move and the joys of people getting excited asking when the baby is due, and all the love of pregnancy knowing it will be a loss. I would have supported her either way though, but don’t feel that in this situation would an abortion be wrong. When we did it, we did it with love as well, we got to hold him and see how perfect he was with exception of his head. I wish I could hold him some more…god bless you all.
I am 5 months pregnant with a baby girl with anencephaly and I plan to carry her to term. I too don’t want her to suffer in any way but I feel that terminating or inducing early will cause her more physical pain than if I let the rest of her body develop as much as possible so that when she is born she has less chances of feeling pain. I know this is a very difficult decision and I know I will never get over watching my baby die but that pain would be there no matter how she passed. I also have other children and I wanted them to know that if they were ever sick or were “imperfect” in anyway I would never get rid of them so I am loving their baby sister the same way. I also believe that God doesn’t make mistakes and everything happens for a reason. We don’t know what perspective may come from an otherwise devastating situation. Good luck to everyone going through this.
My baby was just diagnosed with anencephaly yesterday. I too have chosen to end the pregnancy because I do not want her to suffer. At 10 weeks, I don’t even know if she is a she, but I named her Gabriella Elizabeth. I have the pictures from my ultrasound and they give me some comfort as I await my surgery. I am also a type 1 diabetic and the doctors feel that a pregnancy like this would jeopardize my health as well. I have no other children and live with my partner of three years. I’m in so much pain and didn’t know where else to turn. I’m sorry if I am rambling on… I just can’t think straight as I bare this burden. I love my baby with all my heart and fought initially to keep her here because some people did not feel it was right to have a baby while I was attending college. But I fought for her, and now, I still fight for her in my own way. She will always be my little angel, and like someone else wrote, I refuse to let my angel know pain and suffer as I have. God bless Gabriella…
Dear Latina,
I was induced at 18 weeks with my angel, Rilie Morgan (had her 03/31/08). I too had health issues with the pregnancy, I have MS. Nothing about this is easy and it won’t be for some time. Realize you are one exceptionally strong woman and Gabriella will always be looking over you. Take care of yourself and keep that in mind, always. Remember, especially, to take care of your diabetes in your time of morning, it is amazing how quickly your body can be overcome by sadness. I’ll be thinking of you.
Laura D
Thank you… it makes me feel a little better knowing that someone understands the feelings I have and what I am going through. Someone not telling me, “You’ll get over it,” or “You’ll have another baby when the time is right,” or my personal favorite, “Everything happens for a reason/Everything is for the best.” I will update you all after my surgery this Monday morning. Thank you for your thoughts and prayers. Gabriella Elizabeth will be blessed before the surgery and I will get to keep a certificate from the ceremony. The hospital also told me that they have a memorial service and scatter the ashes of unborn babies into the Gulf of Mexico. I know she’ll be at peace and I cannot wait until the day I get to meet my little one.
I’ll be thinking of you tomorrow Ms. Latina. My heart aches for you - you are not alone. I think it is very special having Gabriella’s ashes scattered in the Gulf. I still have my daughter’s ashes - I love that idea - if I ever make it down that way again. You will be in my prayers and that of my husband’s. Please don’t give it a second thought to contact me if you ever need to talk, vent, cry, or scream…
I don’t think abortion is a good form of “birth control”!! I think it’s morally wrong! My daughter Caitlynn Isabella was diagnosed with anencephaly just last Friday (Sept 26) I was 22 weeks. Deciding to end the pregnancy was the hardest decision I had to make!! I too couldn’t bear the thought of ppl getting all excited & asking me when I was due, having my family feeling her kick but know that would be the last time they felt her!! I thought of my daughter Taylor & how this would effect her if she bonded more with her sister!! We was in the room when we had the regular (anatomy scan) at my dr’s office!! She was so excited that we were having a girl!! When we went to the specialist to determine what was wrong all I could think of was how excited she was!!
When we went to the clinic for the D&E I found out that we could request her cremated remains from the funeral home!! I go in for the surgery tomorrow morning!! I’m freaked out & sad! I keep asking myself if I made the right decision!! I just couldn’t imagine giving birth to a baby girl I can’t bring home!! I want to have more kids!! I love kids! I want to have as many as god will let me!! I will go seek help from a psychologist to help me cope with my grief & my anxiety of future pregnancies!!
I’ve prayed for forgivness, the stregnth to go on, & for god to take my little girl to heaven & keep my little Caitlynn safe!!
I had my D&C on Monday. Afterward, I felt a sense of relief because I knew in my heart that God had taken Gabriella Elizabeth into his arms. Now she is my angel and she watches over me. It hasn’t been easy these past few days. The numbness comes and goes and I crumble in tears randomly throughout the day. But knowing I protected Gabriella from suffering helps me go on. In these situations, we have to choose between terrible and horrible. I feel I chose terrible over horrible, for neither choice is an easy one. No matter what you choose, God will take care of your little one. She will always be there looking over you. I don’t have any other children, so be sure to talk to your counselor about the best way to talk to your child since I can’t help you with that. I will be praying for you.
I want those of you out there who are reading the host of those who decide to terminate their pregnancies to also know there are many others who chose to go on with their pregnancy… There is a wonderful site for mothers of babies with anencephaly that all chose to carry their baby to term: http://health.groups.yahoo.com/group/anencephalyblessingsfromabove/
It’s a wonderful site of mothers who all made the same choice to keep their baby.
I am nearly 6 months pregnant with my daughter with anencephaly and I can’t even imagine not having my baby with me and giving her a chance at life no matter how short. I love feeling her move inside me and know that I am keeping her safe and warm. I don’t get sad when people ask me about my pregnancy, I always respond proudly to any questions people have for me. My other kids are learning the true meaning of unconditional love. They know we love our little girl as much as we love them and that when God is ready to take her she will go join him in heaven.
I am NOT judging anyone on here for whatever decision they make. I won’t deny that I feel abortion is wrong no matter what the condition of the baby is but having been through this experience I know it’s a terribly hard decision to make and no one should have to make this decision. My point in writing this is for those mothers out there who are considering keeping their baby to know that many many mothers do chose to carry to term and I have yet to meet someone who has regretted that choice. There is support for those who chose to not terminate.
All our babies are angels. God bless everyone who is affected by anencephaly.