I’m sorry to hear about your issues with your mom. She sounds like she’s in denial about your illness. I know what that’s like.
When my hubby and I got married (2004), I went into a downward spiral within a year of living together. I was hit with a series of really ‘bad’ events. I was already on meds for depression, anxiety, insomnia, etc. but wasn’t diagnosed with BPII yet. Hubby didn’t think I needed to take all these meds - “nobody needs that crap, it’s all a pharmaceutical scam.” OK, I went off my meds and was a total bitch and depressed to the max … to the point of telling him I’d rather be dead to live such a miserable existence. That was enough to convince him that my meds are definitely needed.
When I finally hooked up with a knowledgeable and caring pdoc, I was diagnosed with BPII and was prescribed the correct cocktail of meds, but hubby denied I have BP. He just doesn’t understand what I’m going through inside myself - just like your mom. It’s easier for outsiders to ‘see’ our illness and how serious it really is.
It’s hard enough to deal with mental illness and even harder when your family doesn’t know how to deal with it. Some folks think it’s our choice to be UP and DOWN all the time and we can control our moods if we try hard enough. As we all know, it’s not like that.
Have you told her you’d like to have a serious talk about your feelings/needs and how she makes you feel? There’s a really good book (that’s easy to read) that might help educate your mom (and you) on BP disorder. It’s called, “Bipolar Disorder for Dummies.” I ordered mine on Amazon.com and it wasn’t expensive.
I wish you peace and am sending you lots of big hugs. Take care! 
