The name of this group is
" NARCISSISTIC PERSONALITY DISORDER GROUP"
There are other groups under the heading of abusive relationships, to suggest we not talk about NPD is an oxie moron. You are in the wrong group if you are offended by hearing the word or having someone referr to their partners or family member's as an N. If you preferr to call your partner "just" an abuser,a mean bastard, or a jerk that's your choice, but be aware that others will call their's N's and will discuss how this disorder impacted their lives, because this is
"THE NARCISSISTIC PERSONALITY DISORDER GROUP".
Give it some thought and if that upsets you any way, you need to find another group, no one wants to add more or take away from your jouney to recover. Our lives and reality have been twisted and messed with enough, I don't want to have to pause and check which group I am in. I joined this one for a reason, I have lived with an NPD partner, almost all of the information explains and applys to my life and explains my partner. You have to recognize and identify a problem or what is broken to begin to repair it. They are broken and so are you, but you can not repair them, and if you could, you need to repair the damage done to you first.
This is the "NARCISSISTIC PERSONALITY DISORDER GROUP," decide if this is the right group for you so you do not impede others trying to recover. Emotions run high on this board, some have been damaged more than others. Some are in different stages of growth or recovery.The worst case, some have children involved in this mess. When you have lived with a N, you have to keep a lot of feelings in, or you would get rage back, so this should be a place that you can express your feelings and PEOPLE NEED TO RESPECT THAT, You don't have to agree with it, you don't have to reply to a post, if you can't say anything nice, don't say anything at all. It is bound to happen, it won't be the end of the world, just move on. Remember everyone that finds this site is HURTING AND THEIR MINDS are not clear, that is why we came here looking for validation of our reality, sanity, clarity and for support in our journey to recovering. Some people may have to hate their N's to start the healing, some people do not want to have emapthy for their N's, they need to focus on their recovery, that may come in time, that is up to each person, what works for you does not work for another. Try to be respectfull of each others feeling and idividual ways of recovering. This is not a one size fits all, we are all damaged, but unique in our feelings and recovery. "Take what you need and leave the rest. "We all share the same goal, TO RECOVER AND MOVE ON.
I think hopetoday did a great thing when she started the other group that you can explore narcissism. She is looking for answers and is concerned about people who have this diorder. So you have an option to join that group also, you will find more emapthy for your partner or family member there. Many of us are just too exhausted from living it, we need to take all the energy and the little sanity we have left to put into our own recovery.
Sam, you are definitely not a people person,your social skills suck, they say, do what you do best, interacting with what you call the VICTIMS is abusive and uncalled for. You have no idea what this feels like, if you can't say anything nice don't say anything at all. I Know it's hard becasue you have to have the last word. This board has been dominated by childish fighting and name calling, stop it now. PM each other, fight in private, set up a meeting place and time and go duke it out.Get it off this board. This is a place for victims to express their feelings, share stories, and hopefully get enough out of it to recover and move on. Your information is valid and helpful but it has taken over the forum. You all need to go away so we can go back to helping each other. We have had enough BS and crazy in our lives, we don't need to deal with it in a place we came for help and support. Don't respond, have your temper tantrum, then go pout in the corner. I am sure I speak for everyone here, we have had enough of this!!!!!!
I left because I have enough BS in my personal life, I don't need to come on here and be subjected to more abusive behavior,I am brand new to support groups, since April, it is only 6 months comming out of the fog and craziness I have lived for too many years. I have learned a lot now about patience, and more respect where people are comming from, I am not recovered, but if I can help or spare someone from living my life, then there was a purpose to the madness I lived. I do not have an agenda, I speak from my heart and that helps in my healing.I am a work in progress. like everyone else on here. I don't have the answers, I am not going to say all the right things, We all need to be more patient and respect each other, trying to recover is not simple or easy for any of us. I am back but could get right back on as
Respectfully mamolie