Confused! Need advice

Narcissistic personality disorder
#1

I’m so mad and frustrated. My soon to be ex calls me out of nowhere demanding to know the sex of the baby. What gives him the right to do that? He didn’t ask about the baby at all? except he demanded to know the gender of the baby. WHAT THE HELL!!! He left me and my boys then called me demanded to know the sex. For Some reason he got in his crazy little head that I’m 6 months due in November. I am only 17 weeks. Due in January… I don’t even think he has a right to know the sex. He walked out on me didn’t help get anything I needed for the baby. I called back I told him off and told not called every again.

Not sure that I handled this the right way but I don’t want him around me or my baby, he told me when we split that the baby was dead to him, so someone needs to explain to me why is he calling me now. He told me that he didn’t want to see the baby, or pay child support so why call just to find out the sex, it doesn’t make sense. Any ideas would be appreciated, I am totally confused and frustrated. Thanks for reading my vent.

#2

Perhaps he wants to know if the baby is a girl as you said that you have boys?perhaps he has a problem with this?
Whatever…its unfair an weird

#3

He is asking now so he can tell his friends that he is going to have a boy/girl. “That crazy woman won’t let me near it and I don’t know why.”

Or some variation.

Don’t take the bait. Don’t be rude to him. Sure, he has the right to know the sex, but he also has the right to provide for the baby first.
Be firm, and polite. Defending yourself is seen as offensive by many N’s.

I’m no expert either. Just sharing what has worked for me. Results may vary.

#4

It ain’t the hormones honey. It was by design. Now you’ve been labeled with anger issues. Don’t worry about it too much. You aren’t the crazy one. You’ll need to be the smarter one though.

#5

Also if the baby is"dead"to him(awful thing to say)why does he want to know the sex of the child…he cant have it both ways…

#6

The Boys aren’t his. They are mine from previous relationship. So He has nothing to do with the boys.

My Plan from now on to not answer any of his calls. If it get too bad I will change my number.

#7

spiralupwards… he doesn’t want to know but His momma does. She control everything he does. She is the reason he left. If it is a girl She want to have something to do with the baby but a boy she won’t even aknowledge it.

#8

They seem to be terrified of their own children…means they are a grown-up…i didnt know the other children werent his own.

#9

oh yeah I know It is kinda complicated but no biggie. To maybe help you understand somewhat ConnedAgain Is My mom. the post are about me.

#10

So hes doing it for his mother…god i cant imagine how you feel about this…i bet in a way that you hope the baby is a boy.

#11

wow…hello…it all makes sense now…a bit mindblowing really,exactly how you must feel…how are you in yourself now?

#12

how is your mum?

#13

Honestly. I wish he would go away so I can heal move on with my life. I love this baby. Boy girl. Purple one monster LOL JK. this is my baby…I just want to be happy with my children.

#14

My mom is aggravated and playing zelda. LOL. She want the same things I do.

#15

You have a godgiven RIGHT to be happy with your kids…and if he doesnt want to parent them…they are better off without him…hes not having the child for his b…y mother the interfering witch…hes a man.
sorry if this is a bit’angry;but its not fair to you

#16

Autimomma…im SURE that you will get plenty of support on here…so hangon in there…x

#17

that was nice compare so some of the thing my mom says LOL

#18

When I read this the first thing I thought about was she must be ConnedAgains daughter. Welcome! Your Mom is so worried about you.

So I’ll get right to the point.

FUCK HIM!

You don’t need to be stressed out right now. You’re pregnant! Nobody says that you have to do anything. Tell him to get a court order and leave you the hell alone. CHRIST! What makes these a-holes think they can walk in and out of our lives and make demands? The hell with him! Seriously! You don’t need to deal with any of this now. Who cares what he needs. He didn’t care about your needs. Don’t get caught up in his games and bullshit. Don’t even call him and tell him off if you can help it. Your main priortiy is having a healthy baby. There’s nothing more important than that. Simply tell him you don’t know yet. YOU decided that you don’t want to find out until the baby is born. Maybe he’ll have the good sense to forget by January.

#19

I was fine before i got involved with him. I do plan to start counseling soon. To help work on my issue I have. I waiting till the boys go back to school. I don’t get anger with anyone else but him.

When he did call he didn’t even ask how are you doing or how is the baby? All it was. Is it a boy or a girl?

#20

and you will be fine again.