Anna , your very welcome. I understand, my heart goes out to you. Seperation is one of the hardest hurts I’ve taken and I’m quite sure you can relate. It’s such a blow to a woman’s emotional equilibrium its just about the most damaging illness you’ll ever have to face in your lifetime.
Be that as it may, it is of the utmost importance that when such a pain descends upon you, you realize that you can recover ~ that you will recover ~ and that this is in reality, an opportunity for you to attain real and total happiness according to your own standards.
It will be dam hard, in fact, it will probably be just about the most difficult thing you’ve ever done in your life.
I know I absolutely had to turn the page on that chapter of my own life. I had to quickly sever all ties with my husband, because he was the one that had inflicted this pain upon me.
It’s going to be similar to losing a vital part of your body, but you must let go, and the sooner you do let go ~ the sooner you’ll be able to set about rebuilding your life and ultimately finding the healthy happy you again.
It’s going to hurt like you’ve never dreamed possible. You’re going to go through a number of mental and emotional phases ~ all of which are perfectly normal and necessary in order for you to “heal yourself” of this great hurt. It’s going to hurt, and you’re going to bleed, but with the proper care and time, you will recover. You’re not alone nor going through anything that a lot of other people haven’t experienced and that in order to “get well,” you must understand the nature of the wound, what to do in order to heal it, and as much about the pre-requisites to total recovery as possible.
You’ll probably lay awake in bed at night and review “every minute” of your marriage, thinking that in this or that circumstance. These thoughts are only natural. It takes two people to make a marriage, and marriages come apart because of the differences in the two people involved. No one is perfect, and happiness in life is a matter of learning from our mistakes. Accept your own short-comings; vow that you will profit from what you’ve experienced; and then get on with your life.
Your doing very well Anna , I’m super proud of you and like I’ve said … I’m here for you. Lean on me if you need a friend or someone to just sit and listen … Believe in yourself , in the love within you , and the hope that keeps you keepin on. Each new day offers you a little more to work with.
Take care and be well …