Jesus Christ, narcissist

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Jesus Christ, narcissist
By Sam Vaknin
Author of “Malignant Self Love - Narcissism Revisited”

Note:

Though most of the quotes in this essay are from the Gospel of Saint Matthew, I was careful to compare them with the texts of the other three canonical gospels. Where the gospels disagree, I avoided using the quote altogether.

Illegitimate and adopted children, especially of humble origins, often develop narcissistic defenses to fend off persistent feelings of inadequacy and inferiority. Admittedly, it is highly unlikely that Jesus was an illegitimate child. Adulteresses in ancient Judea were stoned to death. But, equally, there is little doubt that the circumstances of Jesus’s birth were shrouded in mystery. His mother, Mary, got herself pregnant but not by having sexual intercourse with her lawfully-wedded husband, Joseph.

Early on, Jesus developed magical thinking, compensatory grandiose delusions, and fantasies of omnipotence and omniscience. A firstborn, he was much pampered by his doting mother. He was a prodigy, a Wunderkind: highly intelligent and inquisitive and more comfortable in the company of adults than with his peers.

When he was a mere 12 years old:

“(T)hey found him in the temple, sitting in the midst of the doctors, both hearing them, and asking them questions.” (Luke 2:46)

Even at this tender age, he showed a marked lack of empathy and a full-fledged case of pathological grandiosity:

“His mother said unto him, Son, why hast thou thus dealt with us? behold, thy father and I have sought thee sorrowing. And he said unto them, How is it that ye sought me? wist ye not that I must be about my Father’s business?” (“My Father” being God - SV). (Luke 2:48-49)

Gurus at the center of emergent cults are inevitably narcissistic, if not outright narcissists. The self-imputation of superiority, epiphanic knowledge, and infallibility and the assumption that others need and crave the guru’s message are at the heart of an elaborate construct which often borders on the psychotic:

“… (T)he people were astonished at his doctrine: For he taught them as one having authority, and not as the scribes.” (Matthew 7:28-29)

Referring to his 12 disciples, Jesus made clear that: “The disciple is not above his master, nor the servant above his lord.” (Matthew 10:24)

“He that loveth father or mother more than me is not worthy of me: and he that loveth son or daughter more than me is not worthy of me. And he that taketh not his cross, and followeth after me, is not worthy of me. He that findeth his life shall lose it: and he that loseth his life for my sake shall find it.” (Matthew 10:37-39)

Here is how Jesus, the lowly, unmarried, and itinerant son of a carpenter - an abysmal failure by the standards of his society - viewed himself:

“When the Son of man shall come in his glory, and all the holy angels with him, then shall he sit upon the throne of his glory: And before him shall be gathered all nations: and he shall separate them one from another, as a shepherd divideth his sheep from the goats … And these shall go away into everlasting punishment: but the righteous into life eternal.” (Matthew 25:31-32 and 25:46)

“Thinkest thou that I cannot now pray to my Father, and he shall presently give me more than twelve legions of angels?” (Matthew 26:53)

Contrary to his much-cultivated image, Jesus, like the vast majority of cult leaders, lacked empathy and was a heartless and irresponsible manipulator whose magical thinking ruined the lives of many. He instructed his followers to commit acts that must have had harshly adverse impacts on their hitherto nearest and dearest. Jesus monopolized the lives of his disciples to the exclusion of all else and all others:

“For I am come to set a man at variance against his father, and the daughter against her mother, and the daughter in law against her mother in law. And a man’s foes shall be they of his own household.” (Matthew 10:35-36)

“Then one said unto him, Behold, thy mother and thy brethren stand without, desiring to speak with thee. But he answered and said unto him that told him, Who is my mother? and who are my brethren? And he stretched forth his hand toward his disciples, and said, Behold my mother and my brethren!” (Matthew 12:47-48)

“And Jesus, walking by the sea of Galilee, saw two brethren, Simon called Peter, and Andrew his brother, casting a net into the sea: for they were fishers. And he saith unto them, Follow me, and I will make you fishers of men. And they straightway left their nets, and followed him. And going on from thence, he saw other two brethren, James the son of Zebedee, and John his brother, in a ship with Zebedee their father, mending their nets; and he called them. And they immediately left the ship and their father, and followed him.” (Matthew 4:18-22)
Consider the disastrous effects their actions had had on their fathers and their families, now left to starve. To Jesus, evidently, these were irrelevant considerations.

Jesus healed only those who visibly, volubly, clearly, publicly and repeatedly worshipped him. In other words, he extended his gift only to his sources of narcissistic supply. There are numerous instances in the four canonical gospels where Jesus actually bargains with the afflicted and demands - sometimes in anger - their unconditional adoration. He is happiest when acknowledged and affirmed as Christ, the Son of Man (son of God). Those who do not recognize his splendid grandeur, unbounded might, and implied divinity are “dogs” and “swine” (Matthew 7:6)

His much-touted love of the poor was not a match for his malignant self-love. When his disciples upbraided a woman for anointing Jesus with expensive ointment because the money could have been better used to help the poor, the great humanist, Jesus, had this to say:

“Why trouble ye the woman? for she hath wrought a good work upon me. For ye have the poor always with you; but me ye have not always.” (Matthew 26:10-11)

The principles espoused by Jesus were malleable and easily bent. He professed to minister only to the Hebrews (Sons of Israel) and steadfastly refused to heal the Gentiles whom he called “dogs”. When a woman of Canaan beseeched him to cast the devil out of her daughter (“Have mercy on me!”), he retorted, shockingly:

“I am not sent but unto the lost sheep of the house of Israel … It is not meet to take the children’s bread, and to cast it to dogs.” (Matthew 15:24-26)

But he soon forgot and retracted this lofty “principle” when she adulated him:

“Then Jesus answered and said unto her, O woman, great is thy faith: be it unto thee even as thou wilt. And her daughter was made whole from that very hour.” (Matthew 15:28)

Similarly, he cured the servant of a Roman centurion after his master catered to Jesus’s by-now rampant megalomania:

“When Jesus heard it, he marvelled, and said to them that followed, Verily I say unto you, I have not found so great faith, no, not in Israel. And Jesus said unto the centurion, Go thy way; and as thou hast believed, so be it done unto thee. And his servant was healed in the selfsame hour.” (Matthew 8:10 and 8:13)

Jesus’s initial false modesty soon gave way to bragging and outlandish, often confabulatory claims.

Whenever he affected a miracle - such as restoring eyesight to the blind, cleansing lepers, reviving the crippled, and raising the ostensibly dead - Jesus beseeched them to keep mum about the events. One of many examples:

“And their eyes were opened; and Jesus straitly charged them, saying, See that no man know it.” (Matthew 9:30)

But Jesus was not averse to blatant self-promotion when his false modesty failed to elicit narcissistic supply:

“Go and shew John again those things which ye do hear and see: The blind receive their sight, and the lame walk, the lepers are cleansed, and the deaf hear, the dead are raised up, and the poor have the gospel preached to them.” (Matthew 11:2)

“I say unto you, That in this place is one greater than the temple … For the Son of man is Lord even of the sabbath day … behold, a greater than (the prophet) Jonas is here … behold, a greater than (King) Solomon is here.” (Matthew 12)

As a true narcissist, Jesus reprimanded others for his own brand of behavior. This psychological defense mechanism is called “projection”.

This is how he described the Pharisees, the scribes, and the Sadducees (and, inadvertently, himself and his own conduct):

“(T)hey say, and do not. For they bind heavy burdens and grievous to be borne, and lay them on men’s shoulders; but they themselves will not move them with one of their fingers. But all their works they do for to be seen of men: they make broad their phylacteries, and enlarge the borders of their garments, And love the uppermost rooms at feasts, and the chief seats in the synagogues, And greetings in the markets, and to be called of men, Rabbi, Rabbi.” (Matthew 23:1-6)
Narcissists are disruptive, counter-dependent, combative, and resent authority (rebellious and contumacious). They feel that they are above the law, or, rather, that they are a law unto themselves. They hold themselves to be immune to the consequences of their actions:

“Think not that I am come to send peace on earth: I came not to send peace, but a sword.” (Matthew 10:34)

“And Jesus went into the temple of God, and cast out all them that sold and bought in the temple, and overthrew the tables of the moneychangers, and the seats of them that sold doves, And said unto them, It is written, My house shall be called the house of prayer; but ye have made it a den of thieves.” (Matthew 21:12-13)

Narcissists are ill-disposed towards disagreement and criticism. They react to the slightest hint of either with narcissistic rage and fury that knows no bounds and no mercy:

“And thou, Capernaum, which art exalted unto heaven, shalt be brought down to hell: for if the mighty works, which have been done in thee, had been done in Sodom, it would have remained until this day. But I say unto you, That it shall be more tolerable for the land of Sodom in the day of judgment, than for thee.” (Matthew 11:23-24)

“He that is not with me is against me” (Matthew 12:30)

“For I say unto you, Ye shall not see me henceforth, till ye shall say, Blessed is he that cometh in the name of the Lord.” (Matthew 23:39)

Narcissists react particularly badly when their concocted personal myth, their False Self, is directly and effectively challenged and they are consequently discredited and humiliated in public:

“And when he was come into his own country, he taught them in their synagogue, insomuch that they were astonished, and said, Whence hath this man this wisdom, and these mighty works? Is not this the carpenter’s son? is not his mother called Mary? and his brethren, James, and Joses, and Simon, and Judas? 13:56 And his sisters, are they not all with us? Whence then hath this man all these things? And they were offended in him. But Jesus said unto them, A prophet is not without honour, save in his own country, and in his own house. And he did not many mighty works there because of their unbelief.” (Matthew 13:54-58)

Ultimately, the narcissist pays the price for years of ill-treating others and sucking their energies dry with constant demands for attention, adulation, and affirmation. People get tired of the overbearing and overweening presence of the narcissist in their lives, of his disruptive and destabilizing influence, and of the pernicious effects he has on their nearest, dearest, and communities. Invariably, they seek to banish him and extricate themselves from his cult. The authorities usually are forced to intervene and lock the narcissist up or, worse, crucify him.

Even his closest followers, supporters, and disciples give up on the narcissist:

“Then all the disciples forsook him, and fled.” (Matthew 26:56)

“Then did they spit in his face, and buffeted him; and others smote him with the palms of their hands, Saying, Prophesy unto us, thou Christ, Who is he that smote thee?” (Matthew 26:67-68)

“Peter remembered the word of Jesus, which said unto him, Before the cock crow, thou shalt deny me thrice.” (Peter, indeed, denying knowing Jesus thrice - SV) (Matthew 26:75)

And the fickle “multitude” (the common folk), who were supposed to be the mainstay of Jesus’s power and popularity, betrayed him gleefully and with a clear sense of relief and good riddance:

“Whether of the twain will ye that I release unto you? They said, Barabbas … hey all say unto him, Let him be crucified … they cried out the more, saying, Let him be crucified … Then answered all the people, and said, His blood be on us, and on our children … And they that passed by reviled him, wagging their heads, And saying, Thou that destroyest the temple, and buildest it in three days, save thyself. If thou be the Son of God, come down from the cross. Likewise also the chief priests mocking him, with the scribes and elders, said, 27:42 He saved others; himself he cannot save. The thieves also, which were crucified with him, cast the same in his teeth.” (Matthew 27)

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Sam Vaknin ( http://samvak.tripod.com ) is the author of Malignant Self
Love - Narcissism Revisited and After the Rain - How the West Lost the East.
He served as a columnist for Global Politician, Central Europe Review,
PopMatters, Bellaonline, and eBookWeb, a United Press International (UPI)
Senior Business Correspondent, and the editor of mental health and Central
East Europe categories in The Open Directory and Suite101.

Visit Sam’s Web site at http://samvak.tripod.com

Sam,

In fairness, I would hope the fact that you do not honestly believe you are Jesus could safely be considered to fall under “common knowledge”?

GD

Actually, now that I think about it, dont you have a chapter about how a N
finds himself all alone after awhile because everyone turns away from him
after having started to see the real him?

Sam:

Good student! (pats Phoenixon pate)

http://samvak.tripod.com/journal54.html

“pate”??

I like this sense of humour

that is genuinely funny :slight_smile:

Sam, What Jesus had that N’s don’t is empathy!!! He showed people how to live a life of compassion. Jesus was not a wimp!!! He got mad at injustice and self-serving ignorance. He lived a righteous life, but he lived it boldly and genuinely- unlike a narcissist. God is God! and Jesus is Lord!!!

Hope today, weren’t you the one who viciously attacked mamolie just a few
days ago (it’s all in the archives of this list)?

Is this hypocrisy or what?

Sam

Sam,

To portray Jesus as narcissistic is blasphemous,what an irreverent insult! Jesus unlike Ns was full of love,compassion, empathy.kindness,and self-sacrificing. Jesus is the Son of God who died on the cross for our sins so that we can be set free and have a relationship with God the Father. The message of the cross is foolish to those who are headed for destruction! But we who are being saved know it is the very power of God. As the Scriptures say, I will destroy the wisdom of the wise and discard the intelligence of the intelligent. So where does this leave the philosophers, the scholars, and the worlds brilliant debaters? God has made the wisdom of this world look foolish.

Since God in his wisdom saw to it that the world would never know him through human wisdom,he has used our foolish preaching to save those who believe. It is foolish to the Jews,who ask for signs from heaven. And it is foolish to the Greeks, who seek human wisdom. So when we preach that Christ was crucified,the Jews are offended and the Gentiles say it’s all nonsense. But to those called by God to salvation, both Jews and Gentiles, Christ is the power of God and the wisdom of God. This foolish plan of God is wiser than the wisest of human plans,and God’s weakness is stronger than the greatest of human strength. 1 Corinthians 1:18-24.God has united you with Christ Jesus. For our benefit God made him to be wisdom itself. Christ made us right with God; he made us pure and holy and freed us from sin. 1 Corinthians1:30

My narcissist brother and father are atheists Mary… Perhaps Sam is as well. It makes all the sense in the world. If you think you are GOD, how could there be a higher force than you? If you always think you are right. And that there is no one more intelligent than you. (cerebral narcissism) which is what my brother/dad have. They do not see the point in philosophy and religion. I TOTALLY see why Sam sent that email…It makes perfect sense in his scheme of NPD.

No subject should be beyond enquiry. No topic is sacred. Everything and everyone should be open to scrutiny.

What you are proposing is censorship of free speech, which is not acceptable in any civilized, modern, Western society.

If you lost my respect for me because I exercised my right to speak freely - then I do not want your respect in the first place.

I am not an atheist. I am an agnostic. I don’t always think I am right - but I do my best to always THINK rather than blindly accept.

No subject should be beyond inquiry. No topic is sacred. Everything and everyone should be open to scrutiny.

What you are proposing is censorship of free speech, which is not acceptable in any civilized, modern, western society.

I absolutely agree with you Sam. Free speech ALL THE WAY… Everyone has the right to their
own opinion… But Sam, I can see you would fit RIGHT INTO my family’s living room with your thought process. You are right, everybody else is nuts…End of discussion…You can’t even bring religion up in my house with out there going straight to scientific research that documents the evolution of man with haughty
arrogance. You are shut down before you can even argue. Yes my dad is an IVY LEAGUER and I am not, so how can I possibly have anything to say? Yes my brother is a PHD in Geology. I don’t even bother speaking about my own spirituality. I remain silent and voiceless. But I am sure they have molded me, in their minds, into a Bible banging right wing conservative…which I am not, but I might become one, considering their peculiar twist on morality that THEY ARE ALL KNOWING AND ALWAYS RIGHT. TWO EXTREME BEHAVIORS WHICH CAUSE WAR AND DEATH…

Sometimes It is like I have been run over by a semi every time I might have a differing opinion. I tried to bring up the 10 commandments to my other brother who did not purloin the antique to try to explain why it upset me so much. I thought his HEAD WAS GOING to start spinning around…How could a sister of his think in
these terms? How dare she? How dare she stick up for herself and be her own person? How dare she be so naive and hopeful? I was merely trying to explain to him that the 10 commandments HAD SOME GOOD
POINTS…Though shall not lie or steal… BASICS of humanity. Without these fundamental principles, life becomes chaotic and evil.

Either you haven’t read my message - or you don’t know what the word “agnostic” means. Look it up the dictionary.

I am not an atheist - I am an agnostic.

And you are mixing ethics with religion with philosophy and making a big mess out of the whole thing (laughing).

You may find these of interest:
http://philosophos.tripod.com

Take care there.

I agree I was wrong about the difference. Please excuse me for this.

Thanks for the moral support Sam and the extreme empathy… I knew that you would be there for me…

Hugs and kisses…

When I saw and read this post, I of coarse, was immediately offended, but then I considered who sent it. I decided not to even respond. Remember Sam is a narcissists, he has no empathy. Narcissists do not think of other peoples feelings, that you may be hurt or offended by what they say or do. This may have been appropriate if we were debating and questiong Jesus, but it came out of the blue and was a bit shocking. He is simply sharing information, unable to process that it may be offensive to some.He is right all religions are based on faith, even though there is no evidense to support it. No matter what religion you are, our faith , is a belief in our hearts that it it is all true. Remember Sam is a narcissists, he sees the world in clinical and cold way, he is not SENSITIVE to anyones feelings. Do not expect more from him. Hugs mamolie

I try and imagine what it must be like to never be able to surrender, to have to be “on” every waking moment, to fight with bloody fingers for every moment to exist.

I think it must be horrible.

There are many geniuses whose names we’ll never know. There are N’s who drove everyone away and whose funeralhomes were empty.

Its dawned on me the insatiable hunger for feeling legitimate by making one’s name known is a big gamble. The odds, despite book sales or website hits are still very low than 10 years from now or 100 years from now there will be any meaningful remembrance of any of our names.

What legacy can any of us hope to leave that our lives had meanining? I have a son so I have hope my legacy continues through his son, and greatgrandson. I have a mother whose tenderness acts out in my career and my relationship with others everyday.

But I also had a N grandmother who because she estranged everyone, if it werent for me coming back only for her last 3 days, would have died alone…alone.

Thats not what Jesus appeared to want for us. It appears he wanted us, like the Dalai Lama wanted for us, to be kind to one another, to let go of anger and relate to one another.

Its true, thats the furthest thing from narcissism I think you can get. Its no wonder their names are famous now, and will be for a long time to come. People value kindness as much if not more than genius. It may not create great wealth bu its what changes lives, its what can move mountains.

LOVE IT MAMOLIE…ROCK ON!!! YOU ARE A GREAT COMMUNICATOR. CALM, EVEN AND UNDISTURBED. I AM MORE REACTIVE, AND TRULY PISSED OFF THAT PEOPLE LIKE THIS EXIST.

TAKE A LOOK AT THIS RESPONSE FROM MY CODEPENDENT BROTHER (NOT THE NARCISSIST) WHEN I TOLD THEM I HAD TO WAIT FOR AN ANSWER FROM A JOB PROSPECT SO I WASN’T SURE IF I COULD GO TO THE DOMINICAN FOR CHRISTMAS—GRANDIOSITY AT ITS MAXIMUM… SEXIST CAVEMEN THEY ARE!!! IF A MAN WAS WAITING ON A JOB OFFER, LORD HAVE MERCY, YOU DON’T EVEN COMMENT ON IT…

Don’t you think you could just tell the woman that you can’t work that week? I doubt that would be a problem. It makes it very hard for Dad to know what to do if you have to delay. It is already hard for him to find something at this late date. We really want you guys to come.

GUILT, GUILT GUILT…IF YOU DON’T COME WITH US OR RESPOND NOW TO THE GUN I AM POINTING AT YOUR HEAD IT WILL BE VERY HARD ON DAD… IS THIS NORMAL???

Bup

I was thinking of you yesterday have you ever gone to this girls blog, Ann Valerious, she is an adult child of an N family, lots of N info on there, especially about families. You know at some point you are going to have to take the stand, and pull away, so you can have a more healthy family of your own. Your eyes are open ,you are working towards that, you are getting smarter, believing more in your self, your talents and  growing stronger.. You know what fog means,FAMILY, OBLIGATION and GUILT, used to keep control over everyone in the family and keep it the same, no one allowed to change. It is not normal, you do not have to participate any more. I know it is not easy, just keep working at it, you'll get there. Check out her site .                        Hugs mamolie

http://narcissists-suck.blogspot.com

(laughing again)

Lighten up, will you? What’s with the constant self-pity?

Asking for moral support extreme empathy from a narcissist is like asking
religious people for objectivity and clear, independent thinking …:o))

Also, you never showed me any emapthy - why should I show you any? It’s a
give and take world, you know. Receiving without giving is the essence of
narcissism:

http://samvak.tripod.com/faq42.html

http://samvak.tripod.com/journal96.html

http://samvak.tripod.com/journal81.html

Here’s more about empathy:

http://samvak.tripod.com/personalitydisorders68.html

http://samvak.tripod.com/empathy.html

Sam Vaknin, Ph.D., NPD

:o))

Being a white middle aged middle class educated woman in a wealthy country means I have no idea what its like to be an uneducated black single mother of 4 living in Darfur trying to survive when senseless violence threatens all around.

I cant know what its like to be a narcissist whose only way of relating to others is trying frenetically to impress, manipulating them into submission, or full out attacking them.

But I can watch it and be thankful I dont have a mind thats riddled with the kind of agony one fights against every moment of everyday.

I also wouldnt presume to tell someone to “divorce” their family. I might offer it as an alternative to what one is experiencing while trying to stay. There are other alternatives…there are always other ways of perceiving the world. Rejecting narcissists like they reject survivors, may be the right way to handle the situation for some (I know in my only relationships with my N grandmother and my recent N/AS ex it was) but it takes soul searching, exploring options and getting some clarity perhaps only a therapist can help with.

Sam:

Hugs and kisses…and by the way, God Bless You!!

Love, Bup