I am a 44 year old mother of 3 on my second marriage and this one is a full blown narcissist I promised myself and my 17 year old daughter I would call the lawyer this week for an appointment to start the divorce and I just don’t have the courage. I have no job no money and no friends left. Don’t know how we will live!!!
I have spent the last five years with someone who has NPD.
My relationship with N has turned into one big game starting last
summer. We have been “together” on and off for five years. He has dumped me many times for other women and somehow we get back together. He is a mean, cruel and vicious “person” … He harasses me when we are apart, which I don’t understand at all, because he wanted to be apart. That was obvious to me. He became threatening in subtle ways, saying I will hurt you. I knew what he meant. I fear him. I loathe him. I told him that I thought he wanted me to hate him, but that I never would. Only I really do. He has threatened me before, and recently. I wonder how his current girlfriend, who happens to be 25 years younger than him, would feel if she knew how he treated me??? Meanwhile, she is being treated like a queen, gets roses every couple of weeks. What else could a 48 year old “man” want than someone young and fresh? I am 40 years old. He looks for me on the internet, and sends me messages thru my ads, no
good intentions intended. I dont even place a picture on the site and he
still knows it’s me. This has been the nightmare of a lifetime.
Hello…just got out of a bad relationship with a lady who has NPD. Just looking for some help.
I’m trying to put my life back together after divorcing my N. husband of 19 years. We have 4 kids together and started dating when I was 16. I find people who aren’t educated on personality disorders have no idea what my family is going through. I would like to learn from others who understand how to close that chapter in my life, trust people and myself and laugh more.
I was married for 7 years to the person with NPD. Trying to find answers & make plan for future communication because we have 2 children and he’ll be still in the picture for quite some time.
My husband was just diagnosed with NPD…The Clinical Psychologist said he was a “full blown Narcissist with Paranoia to boot”… I want OUT right now!
I’ve changed in a lot of ways in the past few years. Now that I look back on things, I think I had at least a borderline case of NPD at some point in my life. I don’t know what happened or why I’ve changed so much since then, but I suppose I no longer have that problem, but I’m still very interested in it.
daughter of sociopath
Just checking on a friend and their characteristics.
I stumbled upon this and am wondering if it could be what is wrong with my ex-boyfriend. It amazes me how much it describes him.
Hello,
I suspect I have been dating a N for the past six months. My seduction was “masterful” for the past two months he has been emotional abused and manipulated me, discarded me and then sucks me back in to his circle., once again. I am confident he is BDP but not sure NDP? He seems to be suffering and of course I am drawn to help him…sigh
I have lost everything to a NPD. My home, livelyhood, mind and most importantly my children (boys 10, dtr 13). I need help so my children loose the rest of their childhood, or must worse!
crc
Hi my name is Hurting and I am in love with a narciccistic man. I am a gay man and this N and I are each in aonther relationship. I am an emotional reck. I need to talk with other people about how to get rid of my N.
When I first met N he told me how beutiful I was and that if he were single he would be with me. He indicaited that he was having trouble in his relationship and needed someone to talk to about it. i was intriged as my N was/is very sexy latin man that oozes sex. I feel head over heals in love with this person. I always felt that something was wrong.
We have never had sex together but he keeps me in an aroused state od desire by touching me or strocking me and then backing off saying that is he was not in a relationship he would F*** me crazy. He is an expert at it better than anyone.
Of course this was his way keep me hooked on him. Now that I know through theropy what he is my theropist wants me to drop him. I want to drop him to. He does seem to be backing off of me and I am desperate to hold on to him.
Help!
have been trying to fix my husband of 50 yrs. am just realizing from a friends experience with her mother that he is a narcasist. want to learn how to deal with the abuse
Hello, I am new here and I hope I do this right. I stumbled upon this site by accident actually, I had never heard of this disorder before. I recently broke up with my boyfriend, due to our many problems. The more I read about this disorder, I am wondering if he could have this. I have tried and tried to change him, tried to keep faith in him and tried to love him, but nothing seems to work. He has so many of the symtoms I read about on this site. He lies all the time, he has to be the center of attention, he honestly thinks people like him and actually no one does. Every person you ask has something bad to say about him. He uses people ans sometimes I don’t know if he even has feelings. You never know what to believe. I had to break up this relationship because of his many infidelities, and he calls crying and begging me to come back everyday, but he also blames me for his straying. He tends to do that alot, turn everything around on me. His family has disowned him, my family hates him, and I am left everyday wondering if he ever loved me. The worst part of all of this is I am 7 months pregnant with my first baby and he is the father. he says he wants to be in her life but how can I know he means it, and that he actually does love her? I am so confused on what to do and how to understand him. If anyone can help me with some advice I would be so very thankful…
Dear All,
My name is Kim and i’ve been diagnosed with Narcissistic Personality Disorder by a psychotherapist over 6 months ago now. I originally came into therapy with eating disorder issues, and it was from that that my therapist thought that i may have NPD. Anyway- i’ve been in therapy now for a while- if it wasnt for my eating issues i may not have sought therapy. However- my therapy is due to end this wednesday- i’m a student and they only offer counselling for short-term. So, after wednesday, i wont be able to work on or talk about these issues. I know that i have made progress, but i fear that without being able to talk about my feelings i’ll go back to square one. That’s why, when i found this group, i thought it might be good for me to join.
Anyway- hope you are all well.
Kim
I have recently ended a relationship with a man who fits the description of a narcissist and am looking for answers and understanding.
husband divorcing me because he found a new love 1/2 his age.
I think I’ve just had a nearly 2 year relationship with an N. I want to resolve my own devastated feelings of rejection and confusion with regard to being involved with this person so I can arm myself with tools with which to move forward and not be caught in and N web ever again. I want to connect with others who have shared this experience.