I have a narcissist adopted adult child. I am interested in how much my parenting has contributed to her condtion and how I can help her if I can ever get through her barriers. i want to understand her and myself more. We are estranged but she seems unable to let go and yet will not at this stage in her life talk truthfully. I also want to protect myself and the family from her social game playing.
hello all! I am the child of a mum with NPD. It’s nice to know there are toher folk out there who understand the frustrations associated with this issue. I’ll be talking (typing) again soon. =)
Hello,
I really would love to join this group, but even though it’s showing ‘this group is open’, I’m unable to join.
Does anybody have any ideas, as to how I can join the group?
Thank you,
Diana
Hi friends,
It’s been awhile since I’ve written. As you know, after writing my first book about my experience with narcissists, I had trouble promoting it because it was so cathartic and healing.
Well, I’m now in a place where I’m ready to promote it and am headed to LA for the Book Expo to promote the relaunch of my book.
The new title is “He’s So Vain” To learn more and contribute your knowledge to help others in need, you can visit my site at www.vainencounters.com. I need your help in building awareness. Please join me in my efforts. Thanks.
Peace,
Lisa Ella Scott
I am new to the group. My husband of 3 years passed away 4 ears ago. I have had one 3 year relationship since with a narcissistic person. My self esteem has gone nil. I have lost track of who I used to be and am having troupble figuring out how to get my life back. I keep making excuses for him because obviously I have a relationship addiction disorder. AHHHH! Help!
HappyHarper
Dear HappyHarpist,
Bless your heart honey…I feel your pain. Welcome, welcome, welcome…I hope that you will find this wonderful forum as much help as I do. Are you still with your “N” (narcissist)? I suggest that if you are, google how to live with a narcissist and read up on everything you can. I have learned so much from this forum and searching online for ways to deal with my N. At the moment I have choosen to stay. What’s good about this group is they won’t berate you like some of your wonderful, but un-understanding friends. People who are uneducated about narcissists can’t understand why we stay. I have the same issue that you do…it’s called being co-dependent…and God bless us…we love our N…why…sometimes I really can’t answer that. When I first joined I kinda just joined and forgot about it until a very wonderful person on here (spiralupwards) kinda took me under her wing and really, really, really befriended me and helped me out. I urge you to post when you can and read up on everything you can about this topic. Knowledge is power!
Hello, I am the adult child of a verbal/physical abuser and the former girlfriend/friend of someone I believe to be a narcissist. He is charming, apparently self-effacing and says exactly what you want to hear, but the world does revolve around him. I do believe he has lied many times to those he loves. In our former romantic life as teenagers, we tried BDSM (bondage, dominance, sadomasochism) to satisfy what I believe to be his guilt over his narcissism (I’m not interested in this anymore; it was only with him). I’m curious if any other narcissists are involved with BDSM.
Hi all, I have been married to a N husband for 21 years. I just started reading about N and he meets all the criteria! I have a daugher who will go to college this year. I’m going to be left alone with this person, who I really dislike. The good thing is that he travels for a living and he’s not home much. I love animals and get great comfort and companionship from them. I also have some good friends. I’m torn between staying in this relationship or getting a divorce. I love my home and being there with my animals gives me great joy. I just hate it when he’s home. I just ignore him 95% of the time. I just walk around on tip-toes. He still will find some excuse to verbally attack me. It’s hard not to fight back. Anyway, I’m here and I like reading your stories. Thanks
hi tally…i go 10 times the love/affection from a male guineapig…lol…i know what you mean!
Hello, I am here because my exhusband has some of the characteristics and I am trying to understand… I am also Bipolar and understand how I contributed to the demise of our marriage as well… Just looking for help and answers…trying to get my life back on track with our 12 yo dd…
TJ
There’s plenty of things I did in my past relationship that made things even worse than they were, but its almost a moot point. The relationship was doomed to fail no matter what I did, and even if I had done anything differently with the knowledge I have now, it would have turned out the same. I have my own issues and disorders too, but they aren’t like NPD, which leaves you with a person who is not capable of compromise or working things out which is needed in a healthy relationship.
Hi everyone, I live in Gosford, Australia. Six years ago I married my partner of two years. I have two children from my previous marriage, one severely dissabled. My husband has gone from caring and loving, although always self important and very hard to disscuss things or dissagree with, to someone that I don’t recognize. I have been alienated from all friends and close family members and cannot work out where the lies end and the truth begins that is if it begins at all. I’m desperately trying to keep things together but not sure if I can. Please help me.
Just at breaking point. Need to talk to someone.
i’m confused and feeling crazy. i keep a packed suitcase in my trunk and feel like I have to plan a getaway.
Hello there everyone. I have very recently been through a very bad experience with my NPD husband. It sent me back to therapy. I feel like my whole life is coming unwound. I find myself crying and grieving for a man who my therapist says never really existed. Now what am I supposed to do?
Lelee
Lelee- What are you supposed to do? Give yourself some credit, you were able to get yourself here. You are on the right track. We all have similar stories.
Hello all. I am new to the world of forums, but I think this may really help me learn and accept myself and my husband a little better. I believe, from what I’ve read, that my husband is a true narcissist and am still in shock somewhat. I am feeling really isolated and I hope talking to you all will help.
Hello, just checking in to the NPD world.
Hello, 23 year old male living with this condition, and looking for help to restructure my life.
Hiyall,
I am new here. You can call me A, aegiss, hey you or other, more colorful metaphors. I respond to all of them. =) I'm from the Ozarks and my son's genetic donor is an N... bigtime, or close enough to make no difference day to day. My son, Daniel, and I are trying to learn to deal with this and his other variety mental issues. I started out at googles npd group. I'm also at Yahoo's group. I'm Aegiss both places (btw, yes it's spelled correctly, a bit archaic but accurate... =). I'm pushing 40 and my son just turned 9 and we homeschool. Other than that I dont know what to put in an intro. I've never been to good at these. At any rate, nice to meet yall,
~aegiss
p.s. I'm a disabled vet so no job or anything.