I’ve been gone for a week and the madness continues!!! I have been corresponding with the editor for the Oprah magazine for a week and am having NO challenges with her professionality and confidentiality. It blows my mind that so many of you have chosen to view this invitation with such negativity and out-and-out rudeness! A simply request was made for information - it’s a simple decision - you either choose to participate or you don’t. What possible good can come of this relentless barrage of questioning “why?” and “who should respond?” and “why would I want to help?” - what an unbelieveable waste of this forum - ONCE AGAIN!! Has everyone gotten so jaded that they automatically assume everyone in the world has a hidden and bad agenda and is out to get them? There are some very lucid, intelligent and compassionate women on this board who I believe should consider answering the request - Mamolie etc…hint, hint. It has become obvious that there are some on this board who will NEVER be “helped” by us, by our experiences, our stories, our words of encouragement - I, for one, am going to reach out and attempt to help others in the general public who are completely confused, befuddled and depressed right now… Emily is extraordinarily respectful of my anonymity and I have no doubt that the story, if published in O, will be of the highest quality and above reproach. Again, I am really saddened by the reaction of so many here to what could be a huge stepping stone in the quest to get NPD in front of the public.
Gpsy,
The hedonist imperative is about loving oneself. Do you really believe that is above loving others beyond oneself?
"You are here to "Save" people. With no due study or diligence to qualify yourself for such. Only your own ego to gratify just like a narcissist."
Whatevah, susiecue.
CZBZ
Czbz, You are a joke. So your claim to fame is being what, married, crossed paths, what exactly with a narcissistic. You have yet to share yourself. rather suggest that you have nothing better to offer the real world, just a narcissist to make you who you are. That is sad and pathetic.
Angie,
go for it!
Participate in all the ways that feel right for you.
I wouldnt be so quick to feel discouraged by others who are vocal about choosing not to participate (I’m in that group). For whatever reason each of us doesnt feel its right for us. Let that be OK. And consider there may be people who have written O and they havent said a word publicly about it.
I have faith things will unfold in a way you’ll like.
just keep going girl
They were not reacting to the CONTENT of the message.
They were reacting to the IDENTITY of the messenger - in other words, to ME.
Sam
----- Original Message -----
From: “angiezee” npd-cpt6694@lists.careplace.com
To: palma@unet.com.mk
Sent: Friday, November 09, 2007 7:11 PM
Subject: [npd] this is ridiculous!
Thats not true of everyone Sam.
No Sam,
I was MOST DEFINATELY reacting to the “content of the message”…and the very idea of publicity for the toxic online cult of “DIY NPD” and ALL those who exploit it for personal gain.
GD
(laughing)
wow this place is so amusing today for some reason
I agree. Not of everyone. Just 99% of the respondents reacted that way
(laughing).
----- Original Message -----
From: “thephoenix101” npd-cpt6694@lists.careplace.com
To: palma@unet.com.mk
Sent: Friday, November 09, 2007 7:26 PM
Subject: Re: [npd] this is ridiculous!
It’s because I finally made an appearance!
Modest Sam
Read about false modesty here:
http://samvak.tripod.com/faq36.html
----- Original Message -----
From: “thephoenix101” npd-cpt6694@lists.careplace.com
To: palma@unet.com.mk
Sent: Friday, November 09, 2007 7:33 PM
Subject: Re: [npd] this is ridiculous!
well maybe Sam
I was pretty sure its because my eyes are seeing a whole lot of human folly and ridiculousness this afternoon
which is probably homeostasis taking place after a gruellingly dreadful last few dark days.
But its OK, those dont have anything to do with you, so dont feel like you should feel bad if you could feel bad 
I feel good. It’s wonderful to witness a whole board revolve around me, me,
me!
Me
----- Original Message -----
From: “thephoenix101” npd-cpt6694@lists.careplace.com
To: palma@unet.com.mk
Sent: Friday, November 09, 2007 7:45 PM
Subject: Re: [npd] this is ridiculous!
(chuckling)
soak it up while you can, reality is tomorrow’s another day and its likely to be different than this one.
Not if I can help it!
Soaking Socking Shocking Sam
----- Original Message -----
From: “thephoenix101” npd-cpt6694@lists.careplace.com
To: palma@unet.com.mk
Sent: Friday, November 09, 2007 8:06 PM
Subject: Re: [npd] this is ridiculous!
Hey Angie,
can you tell us more about what the experience is like communicating with an O writer?
I’d find that interesting.
Phoenix, two questions:
- Do you use all this goading, baiting and switching in your work with disturbed teens?
- Do they come disturbed aleady or do you disturb them yourself?
GD
Thephoenix101 - I was NOT being discouraged or critical of those who don’t wish to participate - not at all - especially not you! I apologize if it seemed that way. I was merely indicating my dissatisfaction at those who misconstrued the intent of the article and those who DO wish to participate. I get so tired of people who always have negative things to say and who always assume the worst of everyone.
As far as how it is to communicate with the editor - it’s nothing but a couple of emails back and forth - the basics so far. She then intends doing a phone interview when necessary. It really isn’t anything to be “afraid” of - anyone could certainly add their experiences, wisdom and input and remain anonymous.
Again, I apologize for the misunderstanding! Life is good outside of NPD - let’s go live it! Love to all…
THE OTHER NIGHT I WROTE A FEW LINES TO SHOW MY ADMIRATION OF SAM AND HIS BOOK. THE FOLLOWING DAY I HAD 72 E-MAILS. AFTER SIFTING THROUGH THEM , THE THOUGHT OCCURED TO ME THAT SAM MUST BE LOVING THIS. I DON’T CARE WHO OR WHAT THE MESSINGER IS. HIS UGLY TRUTH TO US VICTIMS IS THE ONLY IMPORTANT THING. HOW MANY OF US COULD ADMIT TO THE THINGS AND THOUGHTS THAT HE HAS? I HAVE CONVEYED MY STORY TO EVERY WOMAN WHO WILL LISTEN TO ME. THEY THEN AMAZE ME BY TELLING ME ABOUT SOMEONE THEY KNOW WHOM I AM DESCRIBING. EVERY ONE OF THEM HAVE WRITTEN DOWN SAMS NAME AND THE NAME OF HIS BOOK. IF HE GETS MORE MONEY AND ATTENTION FROM IT, SO WHAT. THE END RESULT IS THAT WE GET SOME PAINFUL BUT TRUTHFUL ANSWERS. AND IF OPRAHS WRITER CAN HELP SPREAD THE WORD, THATS GREAT. IF I CAN EDUCATE ONE WOMAN ABOUT NARCISSISM, ITS ALL WORTH IT. I HAD 34 YEARS OF VERBAL ABUSE FROM MY EX-H. THEN I WALKED INTO A NARCISSISTS CAGE. NEVER AGAIN! WE NEED TO WORK TOGETHER, NOT BE AT EACH OTHERS THROATS. IF YOU CHOOSE TO REPLY TO O. FINE. IF NOT, THATS OKAY TO.
Victim,
So what is your commission for touting Vakin’s book? Do you honestly expect people to believe that you were abused for 34 years and than walked straight into another abusive relationship with a biker, and than Sam saved you? What word is Oprah suppose to spread? That you are stupid? Or rather that you think everyone else is that stupid?