Victim Mentality

Phoenix (real name Theresa), didn’t you claim to be a (trained,
professional) therapist?

Or should I heed my own writings here:

http://samvak.tripod.com/journal75.html

The Narcissist as Liar and Con-man

http://health.groups.yahoo.com/group/narcissisticabuse/message/4951

(laughing)

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Phoenix wrote:

you dishonour a mind
when you dont honour the body

it amazes me that animals can avoid death in disaster because they flee to
higher ground the day before a tsunami hits

while humans in all our hubris
get washed away

we have instinct
we have intuition
we have the ability to learn and use everything we need to know
but we deaden ourselves to our own nature
in sacrifice to the mind

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I’ve been listening to CBCRadio1’s Sunday morning show again, and there was quite an interesting dicusssion between a professor of neuroscience and the host about how weather affects the brain, both the physical effects on the brain of the physical pressures of weather, but also the chronic anxiety that weather reporting of the last decade has created…fascinating.

That’s an aside, I wanted to share what he mentions to his students from Fromm (Freud’s student) that 99% of our knowledge comes from other people, and what a shame, wouldn’t it be better to step out into the world to see and smell and touch our universe in order to really understand it from OUR OWN experience and learning, not those of other people.

That reminded of this thread, which was rife with people’s real world experience, understanding and knowledge being criticized.

Maybe we know better…maybe we really do know know BEST, precisely because we had our experiences, we can talk from our own place of authority.

I know from my own experience, criticizing my knowledge, even if it was based on my own experiences, pressuring me to doubt myself and my understanding of the world around me, was one of the favoured manipulation tactics used by my exN.

And wasn’t it SMG (and that Nspecialist therapist from the workshop) who say that once you start feeling confused you know your “hard drive” has been “infected by the N virus”?

As time goes on, and I feel my own feet farther and farther along the recovery path (and I hope you all are too), the more convinced I become that “we know what we know”.