Well so we both have disgust with America in common (except for the few Americans I know personally).
Great!
Did I ask you to pander to your public? Did I use those words? No.
Did you see I suggested perhaps you might have wanted to take your message private if you wanted to be vicious to one of your readers? No one is asking you to give up your ethics just to sell books.
But I guess what I was asking you to do is not publicly humiliate a reader in front of other readers, especially when theyre all survivors of N’s…and youre a N. A smart author might be savvy enough to take his personal objections to a reader private. The urge to publicly humiliate is not about being honest, its about being abusive. And I KNOW you KNOW that.
And allow me to say yet again, I am trained as a therapist, I dont work as one. I work in an environment with people who ARE BULLIES, who come from abusive environments and who want to continue what they know by being abusive in my environment.
Its not acceptable.
Nothing you can say will make it acceptable.
Not because I say so, or someone else says so, or if no one says so in future (because look what they get for their efforts), but that will NEVER make it acceptable.
If I see someone being verbally, physically or sexually abused, you’re damn right I’m going to say something about it, and hopefully I wont be the only one. But if I am, so be it. If I get grief from someone like you, so be it.
Jutsify, rationalize, be defensive,project and insult me all you want. It wont make what you did, or what Gaye continues to do acceptable.
The usual you, the funny, erudite you – is.
